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Sometimes it seems all too much
Dear Overcomers
Sometimes it seems all too much to organise and to get control over. I am the one who does the housework and cooking and washing but I also have to finish this project I am working on. Yes I procrastinate by doing housework but it also needs to be done. I do the basics and although things are very untidy, I keep everything very clean, vacuum and there is no garbage lying around or anything. But doing even the basics actually takes a lot of time and energy. I cook when I can as I know I especially need the nutrition. And then there is also self-care of course and that takes time.
I have very limited energy and I cannot cope with all this normal, everyday upkeep and work on my project. I feel guilty that I am not like a "normal" person my age that can cope with this all. Thinking of just minimising the work I do for the housekeeping makes me cringe because that means untidiness AND dirt. I think being surrounded by untidiness and dirt is not good for the psyche and productivity. I just don't know how to cope!
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Thank you
Dear RisingUp, vic and clement and everyone else reading this
Thank you for letting me share and for your support. It does help to know that we are not alone. Yesterday, I got quite a bit done in terms of housework but then I got annoyed when I realised that I didn't do work on the project.
I'm not sure there is an answer to coping with it all except if I manage to become much more energetic! The organisation of my life is a shambles. That is due to procrastination, ADD and an autoimmune disease that make me so tired at times. I can't talk to anyone in real life without worrying them (which I don't want to do) or being misunderstood. The idea of having an invisible friend helping us along and being at our side is really nice. And that's what we are to each other in our community here.
I managed to organise a meeting with the person overseeing this project of mine for tomorrow. I managed to put off arranging the meeting for 4 months but finally did it. I am feeling a bit scared :rolleyes:.
I also broached the topic of my project with my partner the other night and was met with I don't know why you are having problems and you're getting older etc etc. I know why I am having problems. Because whenever I ask questions to help me understand how to do it from people who have been there, I get no help or support. And because I am "stuck" I procrastinate even more.
Anyway, hope you all are having a pleasant day today.
Solidarity,
Kawaiineko
"You got hands, you got legs. Go open that door and walk THROUGH...
Cannot return."
Miranda Hope
Progress one step at at ime
Kawaiineko, so happy to learn that youorganized a meeting on your project. That's progress. I think the best kind of progress are the small incremental ones we make. So, please take time to feel good about what you accomplished.....and, thinks for sharing.
Hamlet
re: sometimes it all seems too much
Thanks for your post, Kawaiineko. Turns out i feel like it is all to much for me tonight, so your post title caught my eye. It is encouraging to hear other people's stories. Isolation is not a good formula for recovery, so i am glad i have a habit of coming here when i feel down and out.
Tonight i had to pick up a package for a customer and i left late, and the GPS said i would get there 1 min after the close. But then i made a wrong turn. So that was that. That was 1 mistake, which, in theory, i know, but it really opened the floodgates for me of piling on all the mistakes i've made in the recent and distant past, and makes me feel like i'm just fooling myself to think i have any recovery at all. In fact, i'm just as unproductive as i've ever been and most likely will always be.
Alright, i'm gonna post that as is and edit later if my emotional state changes...
UPDATE: ok in re-reading my post i see i forgot to say something. AA says
or
It's on the front page of this website :)
Ok after that i feel a little more encouraged. I am no longer on complete empty. I can run on some fumes now, perhaps enuf to drive myself into a recovery gas station.
UPDATE: i'm posting my recovery tonight in my post in the daily thread http://procrastinators-anonymous.org/node/4815#comment-61550
fall down seven times, get up eight - japanese proverb
(Kawaiineko)
Keep coming back.You do not have to be alone. We understand.
re: Sometimes it seems all too much
I can relate. For me it's not about housework necessarily, but any other errand that feels necessary. My errands always seem like a full-time job in themselves, and I don't quite know how to deal with that.
My solution is to turn to my Higher Power. I ask God/HP to help me coordinate my schedule so that I can have balance in my tasks.
In my check-in post I just did in the daily thread, I wrote this phrase that came to mind while I was sleeping, from my HP: "Do what is necessary to survive, and ask God for the desire to thrive." I wrote more about it in the post.
I think there is a degree of perfectionism in this issue, which a PA tool deals with:
Tool 7: Avoid Perfectionism: Procrastinators have
a tendency to spend more time on a task than it warrants, so
tasks that should be quick to do take an agonizingly long time.
Notice this tendency and stop yourself. Some things require
completion, not perfection.