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Please help me email my mum!

I'm expecting an important health-related email from my mum this week, and she'll be very upset indeed if I don't reply.

 I have a huge amount of resistance to interacting with my parents - email is the only contact we have at the moment, and I often don't reply to emails for weeks or months. Probably goes without saying on this forum, but please could I ask that you don't try to make me feel more guilty about this than I already do, because it'll make it even harder for me to face dealing with it.

She gave me the option of not receiving the email if I thought I wouldn't be able to reply, but I told her I would. I'm now very anxious about managing it and want to set up as many safeguards as possible to make sure I do. I'm not sure when the email will arrive, but I think giving myself a 48-hour window to reply is reasonable.

So basically, I'm asking for temporary buddies to give me whatever amount and form of support you're willing to give with this. Things that would help include:

Asking me about it when you see me on the chatbox

Sending me a private message (or email if you know my email) asking if I've received the email and if I've replied to it

Making sure that I don't 'disappear'. I'm afraid that if I get the email and have a lot of resistance to replying, I might not even show up on PA. If I don't show up, you can't help me. So if you don't see me around one day, please, please contact me via message or email to check on me.

Being there to chat through writing the email with me if I need it

Generally being encouraging and telling me I can do it

I know this is a lot of hand-holding I'm asking for, but I'm just so worried that I might not manage this, and I really want to know I'm not alone! Thanks for reading this far. xx

Lucky mum update - She's okay!!

So my mum finally sent me the health email.

Apparently, she thought she had Parkinson's, but was holding off telling me until she was sure. It turned out that the problem was... SHE WAS TAKING TOO MANY MAGNESIUM TABLETS!!!!


Given the anticlimactic nature of this :) I should be fine to reply to it, but I'll shout if I need help. And I'd like to thank all of you for the masses of support you've already given me. You've been awesome :)

Metaphor Mouse! Because playlists are better than tasklists.

Please help me email my mum this week!


Gosh, thanks so much for sharing what happened! I've never had a scare like that so I can only imagine how reassured and relieved you must feel. I think it says a lot about your relationship with your mother that she'd tell you if something was wrong. :) Wishing you the best for your relationship with your parents!

Lucky - good to hear the news!

Glad to hear she sent you the email AND that she's ok.

All the best with your reply. Smile

Great news

Must be quite a relief! Glad to hear it. Though you probably won't need it, wishing you a little strength boost for the reply.

hooray for good news!

Yes, email her and tell her how happy you are that she's ok, and that you have been worried. 

Be confident.  Stay focused.   One thing at a time.

such good news lucky.

the touch of the master's hand:

fall down seven times, get up eight - japanese proverb


lucky email

did i see this on your to-do list recently?

the touch of the master's hand:

fall down seven times, get up eight - japanese proverb



Have sent you an email. Wishing you all the best with doing this - if it is something that in your heart you really want  I'm sure you will overcome your difficulties. So please don't 'disappear'.

Journey & clement - thank you

So much! I really appreciate this. 


Metaphor Mouse! Because playlists are better than tasklists.

We will be here Lucky

Feel free to email me . . .


Be confident.  Stay focused.   One thing at a time.

sure lucky

i know exactly how you feel. I also know how feeling guilty makes it worse. I also know that you have had a taste of recovery, and you already know what it's like to work thru the resistance. It's not fun, but we do it here every day. Even tho we have our failures. This one might be higher resistance, so this might be a challenge for you. But i will pray that HP will give you the strength.

the touch of the master's hand:

fall down seven times, get up eight - japanese proverb