Need tips, need to change, need to finally find a way to deal with this :(
I've signed up here 2 years ago, posted a few times in the daily check-ins, but overall haven't done much. :/
I try getting more organized, try setting up schedules, try staying away from the internet at work, but whatever I do, I still fail over and over again.
I try to set up rules like not staying up all night, but in moments like right now, when I have to finish something (or feel like I have to finish something), I bend them and try to force myself to get things done, despite it rarely working and me ending up either not doing the job or doing it last minute or late again...
I tell myself I can't do this or that, because I have to do this first and end up doing nothing at all.
I tell myself I can't go to sleep before finishing this and end up not sleeping at all and not having done anything.
I spend way too much time on the internet. And if I try not to use the internet, I will do other things on my PC, always avoiding work.
If I'm lucky, it's a task which doesn't require me to use the PC. Then I can try avoiding using the PC, but sometimes still manage to find something else to do.
And even if I try to avoid almost anything, I sometimes still just end up lying on my bed, trying to figure out how to get myself to work, lamenting my having to do this or thinking of other things, daydreaming, whatever. This is ridiculous, pathetic.
Anyway, overall, my current main time-waster is the internet. And if I can at least get that under control, I feel like I will have made much progress.
I'm not quite sure how efficient this site will be, but in my internet-centric world, this seems to be the best thing I could find... :/
Any tips are welcome.
The main thing here seems to be daily check-ins, but I don't really like exposing my tasks publically, so it's a bit of a problem for me.
Here are my own current attempts (applied more or less successfully depending on the days :/ ):
-avoid internet at work unless necessary (not easy)
-give up non-essential websites completely (getting better at it)
-separate firefox profiles restricted to "necessary activities" (mail, banking, etc)
-online TODO list (keeps things more organized for me)
-online calendar (same)
-when at work, add any tasks I come up with to the TODO list instead of doing them while at work
-avoid adding non-essential tasks (I still add too many unnecessary ones)
-do tasks which can be completed immediately, immediately
-start working because once started things usually go quite well (why is this so difficult?)
-set attainable daily goals (too often not done)
-reach them (fails too often)
-regular sleeping, eating times (fails too often)
-daily routine, better hygiene
-daily sport (complete failure so far, never made it more than 1-2 days I think)
-stop posting on forums, websites, etc, unless it's necessary (getting better at it)
-productive procrastination: complete other tasks when avoiding one unpleasant task (could work better, dificult to apply in case of high-priority urgent tasks)
-clean up and organize my room (still a mess since days, and whenever I clean it up, it doesn't last more than a few days).
Basically overall, at the moment, I'm hoping that being more organized will help me (without spending too much time on organization of course), as well as reducing my internet usage as much as possible.
But one of my main problems is finding and deciding a few clear rules to which I can stick, forever (i.e. no exceptions). Does that make sense or should rules always be flexible? I'm afraid of bending them too often if they are not clear.
About my online TODO list: it keeps growing, but doesn't really get smaller.
Cleaning it up and doing a certain number of tasks in it every day is part of my tasks. ^^'
I am perhaps now wasting time by posting here, but I really, really, really need to do something about it.
If I could give up the internet entirely, if it was something I despised, I would. But I have to learn to live with it.
I also tried RSS readers to avoid having to check websites over and over. But it didn't work at all. I kept adding more and more RSS feeds instead to still my hunger for something new... Or simply kept checking the RSS-reader.
The worst part about the "internet drug" is that the smallest "relapse" usually equals several hours or the whole day wasted. :(
It has an exponential effect due to all the links on each website. And even if I decide to not follow them, I will remember them and keep thinking about them until I eventually look at them at a later point anyway. And if I don't, just thinking about them or other things can prevent me from working. I have difficulties focusing on work, so I can't get started or get distracted from the work I already started and need to get back in again.
So, what are others experiences? Any success stories?
I'm listening. :)