Procrastinators Anonymous is a fellowship of men and women who share their experience, strength and hope with each other that they may solve their common problem and help others to recover from chronic procrastination.

Sucking up my pride and maybe getting help

Hello to anyone reading,

I discovered this site over a month ago and and am tremulously taking the plunge from reading to contributing. It is difficult for me to believe that I have legitimate issues that require assistance, a step that must occur if one is to seek treatment. I don't suffer from chronic illness (except congestion), nor do I have any verified mental disorders. I don't weigh myself down with drugs of any kind; even coffee and antihistamines are verboten to me. But things haven't been working. I procrastinate over the simplest things, even brushing my teeth or going to the bathroom. When I was living on my own I would often eat a dinner of crackers and peanut butter rather than go to the supermarket a kilometer away. Instead of starting a school paper or project I would read a book that had been assigned years ago - anything to avoid the reality of work. People accuse me of mere laziness, and I'm not sure they're wrong. In any event, I don't want to accept responsibility mostly because I will disappoint those who trusted me to get something done.

Here's a short list of things that I have failed to achieve:

  graduating college

  becoming an Eagle Scout

  getting any sort of IT certification

  a relationship with a woman lasting longer than six months

  a website for a family member's church (I took the project in January but haven't done more than 10 minutes' worth of work)

  being a good programmer

  making my own website

  fluency in another language


I am jobless, virtually friendless with no prospects on the horizon. Clients will sometimes call me with computer questions, but this is a far cry from being the professional I say I am. I call myself a web designer, although I haven't produced anything. I haven't dated in six years and have no hopes for a girlfriend. Everything seems like a dead end. I could continue, but this has turned into a disgusting pity-fest.

Welcome Vaskaat!

You're in the right place! 


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