Procrastinators Anonymous is a fellowship of men and women who share their experience, strength and hope with each other that they may solve their common problem and help others to recover from chronic procrastination.
So I haven't been checking in because I am home and not under tons of obligations to do stuff. Though I might check in a couple times since there are things to be done eventually over break.
Hope everyone has a great St. Patrick's Day! My parents are watching my son, so I get to go out tonite and be a 21 year old for a little bit :O !!! Lol. Nothing TOO crazy, but a concert/drinks with my best friend :)
Not really a check in per se, as my two items are. . .
-Drink a beer, and -Drink another beer (and stop at two!)
haha
Just want to send everyone well wishes and that I missed you guys yesterday! lol.
That was a great list of things you noticed, Findingaway. Thanks. Here it is:
"Noticed 3 things today:
planning isn't so scary once I start
I underestimate how long things will take and overestimate how much I can do at night when I'm tired
if I decide to add in extra tasks then other tasks don't get done (obvious, huh!)"
Amen to that.
For me, this is a mixed-up day in a mixed-up week. Didn't even post here yesterday. I'm concerned about sliding off the good track I've been on recently. Do I have an excuse for not getting much done today and yesterday and, probably, tomorrow? Sure. Could this episode start a new series of screwed-up days, uncompleted tasks and unmet desires? Absolutely. Well, I'll do my best. We'll see...
Prep
Check ins
Make bed
Breakfast
Coffee, paper
Morning
Email re: pricehike
Do noon intvw
Afternoon
Healthy lunch
Check status of new11
Do 1 BN
Call 1 re: cruise
Call 1 re: govtexit
Fun w/kids
Prep for show
Evening
Do showcase
Healthy dinner
Fun w/kids
Bed by 10:30 or so
All I have left to do is go to bed. I was a trifle light on tasks today, but that happens sometimes. I had a really good time at the showcase, and the owner and booker came up after and said I was a "phenomenal" guitar player. I'm not sure anybody has ever told me I was a phenomenal anything. I only got $3 in tips, but you can't have everything. Tomorrow I have to get a little more work-work done than I did today, plus shop for my son's birthday present, and of course have fun with the kids. Thanks to everybody for being here. Somehow it seems to make a big difference.
You can think. You can feel. You can solve your problems. You can take care of yourself.
Those words have often benefited me more than the most profound and elaborate advice.
How easy it is to fall into the trap of doubting others and ourselves.
When someone tells us about a problem, what is our reaction? Do we believe
we need to solve it for the person? Do we believe that that person's
future rests on our ability to advise him or her? That's standing on
shaky ground - not the stuff of which recovery is made.
When someone is struggling through a feeling, or a morass of feelings, what
is our reaction? That the person will never survive that experience?
That it's not okay for someone to feel? That he or she will never get
through this intact?
When a person is faced with the task of
assuming responsibility for their life and behaviors, what is our
response? That the person can't do that? I must do it myself to save him
or her from dissipating into ashes? From crumbling? From failing?
What is our reaction to ourselves when we encounter a problem, a feeling, or
when we face the prospect of assuming responsibility for ourselves?
Do we believe in others and ourselves? Do we give power to people -
including ourselves - and their abilities? Or do we give the power to
the problem, the feeling, or the irresponsibility?
We can learn to check ourselves out. We can learn to think, and consider our
response, before we respond. "I'm sorry you're having that problem. I
know you can figure out a solution. Sounds like you've got some feelings
going on. I know you'll work through them and come out on the other
side."
Each of us is responsible for ourselves. That does not
mean we don't care. It does not mean a cold, calculated withdrawal of
our support from others. It means we learn to love and support people in
ways that work. It means we learn to love and support ourselves in ways
that work. It means that we connect with friends who love and support
us in ways that work.
To believe in people, to believe in each
persons inherent ability to think, feel, solve problems, and take care
of themselves is a great gift we can give and receive from others.
Today, I will strive to give and receive support that is pure and empowering. I
will work at believing in myself and others - and our mutual abilities
to be competent at dealing with feelings, solving problems, and taking
responsibility for ourselves.
From The Language of Letting Go by Melody Beattie
MY BASICS: checking in; support calls(1x); affirmations; gratitudes; reading; check calendar AM; check calendar PM; write down my 6 most important tasks; voicemail; exercise; manage A; manage D; use "tracking time" sheet; use master list; use timer (check out instant boss application)
Affirmations (said aloud as well):
I choose to show up and start my top 6 tasks, 15 to 30 minutes at a time.
I set my mind to my top 6 tasks and I complete them -- in 15 to 30 minute periods.
Have a fun St. Patrick's Day - where everyone is part Irish today!
Wow this has been a crazy week. I got to the gym at 6:45 again (goal is 6:15) and had a great workout. I was 15 minutes late to work, and I am meeting my daughter for lunch so I'll be taking a long lunch too. I have been slacking at work this week but I'll make up for it next week when I have on-call duty. Still I feel anxious and uncomfortable that I have not worked hard enough this week at my job. With moving my daughter, time change, and my husband's medical test yesterday it's been a messy week.
But that does not mean that I can't use the time I have to work in the most productive manner possible. I have not even made my todo list yet today, as I had a 9:30 meeting, spent some time talking to my daughter figuring out the logistics for lunch, and then did email. NOW I'm finally making my todo list. I will take a deep breath and plan the rest of the day without stressing over it. I can get a lot more done if I attack it in a non-stressful manner. Here goes . . .
Jo
Self-improvement is the name of the game, and your primary objective is to strengthen yourself, not to destroy an opponent. Maxwell Maltz
Preface this by saying I will time myself, anytime i go on the internet today so that my time on the internet does not add up to more than 1 1/2 hours.
Funny, I was really motivated yesterday and the weather was dreary. Today it is beautiful! And I'm not much motivated . . .
Today: - readings for class
- class - yoga after work (which I had planned this morning to skip for health reasons but we'll see)Now planning to go :-) Feeling much better
A late start this morning...kind of frustrated with myself for that
I don't feel like working, but I know I'll feel good when I've gotten my stuff done!
I need to:
*MK plan + email
*Do He/PAS staining, take panoramic photos of 2 slides, and do prelim assessment of these slides
*Check on expts, do tagging
*Read S8 paper and write up comments
*Spend 1 hr thinking/reading and abot RA competence
*Small group
*Maybe exercise?
OK, guess I'll start with check on expts/tagging/starting MK plan, then I'll email MK, then I'll do the He/PAS staining
"Watch your thoughts, for they become words.. Choose your words, for they become actions. Understand your actions, for they become habits. Study your habits, for they will become your character. Develop your character, for it becomes your destiny."
Please do not leave advice. Thank you. Prayers welcome.
This is the 59th day that I have followed through with the following:
I'm making a pledge to quit using the dating site(s) and Facebook for 90
days. I had written this on my 43things account, but I wrote that I
wanted to avoid dating sites for a full six months, so I think 90 days
is reasonable for a dating site. I also have a penchant for looking at
and stalking certain people repeatedly on the dating website and online,
which has prevented me from sanity. Just all out stalking certain
people has been all out crazy; if I'm not stalking one person, it's
another person. During times I've tried to quit the dating site
before, I have visited people's dating profiles, even while not
registered on the dating site. So part of my whole thing with quitting
dating sites is also quitting stalking people's profiles that I've tried
to date in the past. If I accidentally load a dating site, b/c I
accidentally clicked on something obviously that doesn't count. You can
hardly hang a cat on the Internet without hitting a dating site ad.
Intention is everything.
In other words:
90 days away from dating sites and facebook
90 days of not stalking people's profiles of people I've tried to date in the past
90 days of not stalking people online that I've tried to date in
the past. (I am now back on day 22 for this, because Wednesday I
accidentally searched for an old classmates twitter).
No Internet chat, aside from employment or twelve-step. (I'm on day 4
of this, since 8am Saturday.) This includes not stalking people on AIM or other chat
networks, whom I've tried to date in the past. I just want to take a step back and get sanity and focus on MYSELF.
56 days of exercise: I'm on day 2 for this. All I need to do is
exercise for 30 minutes a day: walking, swimming, hiking, biking,
running, jogging, karate, yoga, a dance class. Anything of those for at
least 30 minutes. And nothing else. I can do the running plan, but I
assure myself that each day that I show up to run, I will be okay, if
all I do is ultimately choose to walk. Whatever I feel comfortable with
when I do. That way I don't intimidate myself.
All of your posted goals and pledges, today, sound very ambitious to take on at once. I don't mean to be Debbie Downer, but are not setting yourself up for failure? That's a lot of behavior changes, all at once.
That said, I, too, spend way too much time on line stalking a celeb. In my eyes it is a symptom of deeper issues and a symptom. I pledged to not stalk this person or overuse the internet , today.
Please do not leave advice. Thank you. Prayers welcome.
But to answer your question: no I'm not setting myself up for failure. I find that it is helpful to have positive toplines to replace the bottomline behavior. Also, if you haven't noticed this is day 59 for me, so that feels like success for me. And all of the stalking is really the same pattern for me. Some people can quit cold turkey, others have to quit one thing at a time, but I do not use the checkin for discussion about myself. So I would really appreciate your not leaving feedback, thanks.
Please do not leave advice. Thank you. Prayers welcome.
Please do not leave feedback or advice. That is what it says at the beginning of my posts, as you may have read. I really would appreciate that you respect that in order for me to feel safe using the boards.
Happy St. Patrick's Day people!
Check-in/onward-
So I haven't been checking in because I am home and not under tons of obligations to do stuff. Though I might check in a couple times since there are things to be done eventually over break.
Hope everyone has a great St. Patrick's Day! My parents are watching my son, so I get to go out tonite and be a 21 year old for a little bit :O !!! Lol. Nothing TOO crazy, but a concert/drinks with my best friend :)
Not really a check in per se, as my two items are. . .
-Drink a beer, and -Drink another beer (and stop at two!)
haha
Just want to send everyone well wishes and that I missed you guys yesterday! lol.
Later y'all
hope4meandu day 46
Thanks 11th hour!!!! for the lucky starter!!!
Depression a little better today, thank HP.
Due to situation beyond my control, they'll be know doing today - YAY!!
I made a cardiologist appt., which is so close to where I work, I can't screw it up, and I need to go badly, it's Tuesday, thank HP & you guys!!
-cancel Tuesday a.m. appt.
-go to A.S. buy bags
Wishing you all prayers for procrastination breakthroughs!!
♥"Careful the wish we make, wishes are children. Careful the path they take, wishes come true..." From "Children Will Listen," by Stephen Sondheim.♥
My Day Today
I want to thank my Higher Power for this program, this website, the telephone and online meetings, and my life.
I want to thank 11th hour for starting this trend
Things I have done today
1. Went to the 7 a.m. telephone DA meeting2. Took shower3. Got dressed4. Went to the therapy group after 95. Went to individual therapy at 10:156. Ate brunch7. Had morning prayerThings I will do today
1. Go to the Internship at 1 p.m.2. Have evening prayer
3. Cook and eat dinner4. Go to the face to face NA meeting at 8 p.m.5. Renew library books6. Do numbersThanks for letting me share
St. Patrick's with the Scribbler 10:56 a.m.
That was a great list of things you noticed, Findingaway. Thanks. Here it is:
"Noticed 3 things today:
Amen to that.
For me, this is a mixed-up day in a mixed-up week. Didn't even post here yesterday. I'm concerned about sliding off the good track I've been on recently. Do I have an excuse for not getting much done today and yesterday and, probably, tomorrow? Sure. Could this episode start a new series of screwed-up days, uncompleted tasks and unmet desires? Absolutely. Well, I'll do my best. We'll see...
Prep
Check insMake bedBreakfastCoffee, paper
Morning
Email re: pricehikeDo noon intvwAfternoon
Healthy lunchCheck status of new11Do 1 BNCall 1 re: cruiseCall 1 re: govtexitFun w/kidsPrep for showEvening
Do showcaseHealthy dinnerFun w/kidsAll I have left to do is go to bed. I was a trifle light on tasks today, but that happens sometimes. I had a really good time at the showcase, and the owner and booker came up after and said I was a "phenomenal" guitar player. I'm not sure anybody has ever told me I was a phenomenal anything. I only got $3 in tips, but you can't have everything. Tomorrow I have to get a little more work-work done than I did today, plus shop for my son's birthday present, and of course have fun with the kids. Thanks to everybody for being here. Somehow it seems to make a big difference.
(thanks Scribbler!)
Glad you could relate to my stuff
. Hope all is going well for you and you are back 'on track', or where you want to be with your tasks.
A bit slow responding as I was at my client's office all day yesterday working and so didn't check in.
tracy-la check in thurs 3-17
Empowering
You can think. You can feel. You can solve your problems. You can take care of yourself.
Those words have often benefited me more than the most profound and elaborate advice.
How easy it is to fall into the trap of doubting others and ourselves.
When someone tells us about a problem, what is our reaction? Do we believe
we need to solve it for the person? Do we believe that that person's
future rests on our ability to advise him or her? That's standing on
shaky ground - not the stuff of which recovery is made.
When someone is struggling through a feeling, or a morass of feelings, what
is our reaction? That the person will never survive that experience?
That it's not okay for someone to feel? That he or she will never get
through this intact?
When a person is faced with the task of
assuming responsibility for their life and behaviors, what is our
response? That the person can't do that? I must do it myself to save him
or her from dissipating into ashes? From crumbling? From failing?
What is our reaction to ourselves when we encounter a problem, a feeling, or
when we face the prospect of assuming responsibility for ourselves?
Do we believe in others and ourselves? Do we give power to people -
including ourselves - and their abilities? Or do we give the power to
the problem, the feeling, or the irresponsibility?
We can learn to check ourselves out. We can learn to think, and consider our
response, before we respond. "I'm sorry you're having that problem. I
know you can figure out a solution. Sounds like you've got some feelings
going on. I know you'll work through them and come out on the other
side."
Each of us is responsible for ourselves. That does not
mean we don't care. It does not mean a cold, calculated withdrawal of
our support from others. It means we learn to love and support people in
ways that work. It means we learn to love and support ourselves in ways
that work. It means that we connect with friends who love and support
us in ways that work.
To believe in people, to believe in each
persons inherent ability to think, feel, solve problems, and take care
of themselves is a great gift we can give and receive from others.
Today, I will strive to give and receive support that is pure and empowering. I
will work at believing in myself and others - and our mutual abilities
to be competent at dealing with feelings, solving problems, and taking
responsibility for ourselves.
From The Language of Letting Go by Melody Beattie
MY BASICS:
checking in; support calls(1x);affirmations;gratitudes;reading;check calendar AM; check calendar PM;write down my 6 most important tasks;voicemail; exercise; manage A; manage D; use "tracking time" sheet; use master list; use timer (check out instant boss application)Affirmations (said aloud as well):
I choose to show up and start my top 6 tasks, 15 to 30 minutes at a time.
I set my mind to my top 6 tasks and I complete them -- in 15 to 30 minute periods.
Have a fun St. Patrick's Day - where everyone is part Irish today!
tracy-la
T
Good one, Limited expectations yield only limited results.
—Susan Laurson Willig
Schoolchildren perform according to the expectations their teachers have of them.
Yes . . .
empowering others by supporting their ability to think/do for themselves . . . another powerful "thought for the day"
Thanks!
FindingNewStrength CI
Morning routine (20 mins) DONE
Meeting (2 hours) DONE
Shopping (20 mins) DONE
Washing up (20 mins)
Study (2 * 20 mins)
Evening routine (20 mins)
Job hunting 40 mins DONE
Total work completed 3 hours 0 mins
Journey 11:11
Wow this has been a crazy week. I got to the gym at 6:45 again (goal is 6:15) and had a great workout. I was 15 minutes late to work, and I am meeting my daughter for lunch so I'll be taking a long lunch too. I have been slacking at work this week but I'll make up for it next week when I have on-call duty. Still I feel anxious and uncomfortable that I have not worked hard enough this week at my job. With moving my daughter, time change, and my husband's medical test yesterday it's been a messy week.
But that does not mean that I can't use the time I have to work in the most productive manner possible. I have not even made my todo list yet today, as I had a 9:30 meeting, spent some time talking to my daughter figuring out the logistics for lunch, and then did email. NOW I'm finally making my todo list. I will take a deep breath and plan the rest of the day without stressing over it. I can get a lot more done if I attack it in a non-stressful manner. Here goes . . .
Jo
Self-improvement is the name of the game, and your primary objective is to strengthen yourself, not to destroy an opponent. Maxwell Maltz
Be Impeccable with My Word Schedule
Preface this by saying I will time myself, anytime i go on the internet today so that my time on the internet does not add up to more than 1 1/2 hours.
8-8:30 A.M. Align with spirit
8:30-9 Detal care
9-9:30 Organize cupboard
9:30-10:00 Go through living room paperwork.
10-Noon Errands Printer ad doctor appt.
Noon-1 PM Wash clothes
1-5:00 PM Work on Apps.
5-6:00 Exercise
6-7 Clean bathroom
7-8 pm Clean kitchen
8-9 clean living room
9-10 PM Get ready for bed
Not as motivated today
Funny, I was really motivated yesterday and the weather was dreary. Today it is beautiful! And I'm not much motivated . . .
Today:
Now planning to go :-) Feeling much better
- readings for class
- yoga after work- class
(which I had planned this morning to skip for health reasons but we'll see)kromer 10:20 CI
A late start this morning...kind of frustrated with myself for that
I don't feel like working, but I know I'll feel good when I've gotten my stuff done!
I need to:
*
MK plan+ email*
Do He/PAS staining, take panoramic photos of 2 slides, and do prelim assessment of these slides*
Check on expts, do tagging*Read S8 paper and write up comments
*
Spend 1 hr thinking/reading and abot RA competence*Small group
*Maybe exercise?
OK, guess I'll start with check on expts/tagging/starting MK plan, then I'll email MK, then I'll do the He/PAS staining
Vic 3/17/11
Show up (done)
, basics
, strategize to complete
"Watch your thoughts, for they become words.. Choose your words, for they become actions. Understand your actions, for they become habits. Study your habits, for they will become your character. Develop your character, for it becomes your destiny."
Phylomon
Thank you, 11th_hour for starting us today!
- exercise
- work for justin
- call JA, JC
- NI
- SMB docs
fudoshin: day 59 : 1:43am
Please do not leave advice. Thank you. Prayers welcome.
This is the 59th day that I have followed through with the following:
I'm making a pledge to quit using the dating site(s) and Facebook for 90
days. I had written this on my 43things account, but I wrote that I
wanted to avoid dating sites for a full six months, so I think 90 days
is reasonable for a dating site. I also have a penchant for looking at
and stalking certain people repeatedly on the dating website and online,
which has prevented me from sanity. Just all out stalking certain
people has been all out crazy; if I'm not stalking one person, it's
another person. During times I've tried to quit the dating site
before, I have visited people's dating profiles, even while not
registered on the dating site. So part of my whole thing with quitting
dating sites is also quitting stalking people's profiles that I've tried
to date in the past. If I accidentally load a dating site, b/c I
accidentally clicked on something obviously that doesn't count. You can
hardly hang a cat on the Internet without hitting a dating site ad.
Intention is everything.
In other words:
the past. (I am now back on day 22 for this, because Wednesday I
accidentally searched for an old classmates twitter).
of this, since 8am Saturday.) This includes not stalking people on AIM or other chat
networks, whom I've tried to date in the past. I just want to take a step back and get sanity and focus on MYSELF.
exercise for 30 minutes a day: walking, swimming, hiking, biking,
running, jogging, karate, yoga, a dance class. Anything of those for at
least 30 minutes. And nothing else. I can do the running plan, but I
assure myself that each day that I show up to run, I will be okay, if
all I do is ultimately choose to walk. Whatever I feel comfortable with
when I do. That way I don't intimidate myself.
Comment
All of your posted goals and pledges, today, sound very ambitious to take on at once. I don't mean to be Debbie Downer, but are not setting yourself up for failure? That's a lot of behavior changes, all at once.
That said, I, too, spend way too much time on line stalking a celeb. In my eyes it is a symptom of deeper issues and a symptom. I pledged to not stalk this person or overuse the internet , today.
fudoshin: re: advice : 9:18pm
Please do not leave advice. Thank you. Prayers welcome.
But to answer your question: no I'm not setting myself up for failure. I find that it is helpful to have positive toplines to replace the bottomline behavior. Also, if you haven't noticed this is day 59 for me, so that feels like success for me. And all of the stalking is really the same pattern for me. Some people can quit cold turkey, others have to quit one thing at a time, but I do not use the checkin for discussion about myself. So I would really appreciate your not leaving feedback, thanks.
fudoshin: re: advice: 9:15pm
Please do not leave advice. Thank you. Prayers welcome.
Please do not leave feedback or advice. That is what it says at the beginning of my posts, as you may have read. I really would appreciate that you respect that in order for me to feel safe using the boards.
Prayers...
... sent.