Why things don't work out.
In the PA, we have the forums for check-in, Daily Check-in and Special Projects and .... Here is where all those work together as task buddies on their goals check-in daily.
I also came here, found some interested people and we agreed to check daily or at least as frequently as possible. It went good for some time. Everyone showed up almost daily. But then things fell through. In one forum, others have stopped showing and only I keep posting. In another forum, I could not show up and my task buddy also stopped showing up. I tried to do a post-mortem of why this happened.
It seems that when we start a new thing, there is a lot of excitement and enthusiasm. But that enthusiasm can't be sustained for long. Slowly we lose interest due to various reasons and then the posting hits a dead end. The loss of enthusiasm is also obvious because progress made is not satisfactory enough. Besides there is lack of discipline on our part. I think it can be compared to a marriage. When the marriage is new there is a lot of fire. Then the flame begins to dwindle.
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Thanks everyone for the
Thanks everyone for the support and encouragement! I am also committed to pay back the kind by supporting members when needed.
There are a few things going on in my mind. I will put it here soon..
progress not preffection
I relate to your struggles so very much and please know you are not alone in them, even though it might feel or look that way (to me lots of times). I believe we all struggle here and everywhere with something. I'm not a good advice giver, just wanted to reach out and say I know how disappointing things can be. Please keep coming and sharing!!
♥"Careful the wish we make, wishes are children. Careful the path they take, wishes come true..." From "Children Will Listen," by Stephen Sondheim.♥
Life is full of ups and downs, that is reality. We are all responsible for our own happiness and recovery.
We can only focus on own own inventory if we want to recover, only our own part in things. We are the only person we can change, in and out of PA.
I think we can all say we found that to some degree over weeks/months/years.May I offer these thoughts, though:
Some find recovery immediately through one tool. Some find it all damned useless and move on. Some are hesitant to embrace others intellectually through aritificality of keyboard or phone console. Some find the tools themsleves (chatbox, forum, phone, email --whatever) become a pseudo sub for actual tasks-at-hand and recovery (i.e. spending time on those things as a distraction in itself) and find that realization jarring--and then withdraw.....and a million reasons I can not articulate or fathom.
As powerful as any recovery is WITH company of others, it can only be one's inner recovery as each of us knows it. Do not let go of your enthusiasm -- perhaps channel it -- into yourself and the ones whom you know well around you and in the ones who are yet to join. But perhaps also appreciate that each is finding her or his path and stumbling or succeeding.....and you can succeed regardless of another's and still be positive. A subtlety, I admit, but a significant one in my mind. Keep at it, Titan :-)