Hello. I'm an over 50 year old mother of two who is a chronic and compulsive procrastinator. Every regret in my life stems from my procrastination, or the way I've responded to situations in which I have procrastinated.
The reason I've joined and am trying to find a way out of the labyrinth of procrastinating behaviors, is that I see it in one of my children. She's in high school. What if I can help her that early? Possibly finding my way will help her to find her way out of the mire.
I've thought a while about what to say about what procrastination has done to and for me. I think the bottom line is that I believe that I'm living as two people. The one that others see as I try to put up that front that I'm normal. Then there's the real me that's awfully flawed. The one that has all the regrets of things I haven't done, or of the people I feel I've let down. There's that fear that someone will find out what I'm truly like...nonfunctional unless pushed to the limit.
So, I'm here. I'll take baby steps and work to change my inner thoughts and my actions. I'll even promise not to get so caught up in this site that I use it as another reason to not do things that I need to do!
I look forward to meeting you all.
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Hello and welcome,
It's lovely what you are doing for yourself and your daughter. I don't know about you but I feel great even taking this first step. And when your daughter sees you going out and making something of yourself, she will want to do the same.
I know what it is like to live in the fear that someone will find out who you really are and to believe you are not perfect. What we have to remember is that everyone is flawed. We are not the only ones with problems, and we are making the effort to do something about it.
Good luck on your journey.
Courage and Congratulations.
I speak as one relatively new to this site and a father of 2 boys (still in elem/middle) in whom I see a lot of the same (me).
You are not alone, though I must admit, it regularly feels like I am alone.
'I'm going to put a smile on my face, put forth a good effort, and be better today than I was yesterday.' - Huma