Upbringing and procrastination
Reading this article: http://www.2knowmyself.com/Self_regulation_and_parenting made me think about my own procratination roots. It has been clear to me for a while that my upbringing has played a big part in my problem. But it took me a while to come to that realization because my parents are so far from the image of stern, extremely strict and loveless that a phrase like "authoriative parents" conjure.
My mom was always looking out for me, always worried about practical matters, but unfortunately instead of teaching me how to look out for myself, she just took care of the matters herself to protect me. My dad was very proud and supportive of me and as a child school and music did come effortlessly to me so it was only fair that he was. But as I grew older and demands got higher I still expected things to come easy to me which they of course didn't. Instead of encouraging me to get better, my dad kept supporting my mediocre results, even though it was obvious to everyone that I was not really getting anywhere. In general they were very quick to excuse me when I messed up and I'm sure they did it because they loved me.
Complaining about loving parents may seem very ungrateful and privileged but when you never take a fall for yourself, when you're not really held responsible for your own actions, you become helpless. The combination of "mother knows best" and "you don't have to strive" might be comfortable when you're a child but as a grown up I feel like these mindsets have done some damage.
It's of course important to never let these things become excuses, because everyone has some baggage. It's just easier to sort out your problems when you know the roots.
I'm quite curious as to how other procrastinators were raised. Did your parents take care of things for you? Were they procrastinators too? Did you have a happy or difficult childhood?