Questions about starting on this path
Hello everybody. Thanks so much for existing, and sharing yourselves.
I am in a dark, foul mood today with a killer headache, and am trying to do something semi-productive. As I've waded through the forum posts for ideas and tips over the past few days, I've come up with a few questions. If these are answered elsewhere, please just point me in the right direction (leave a link) and I'll be happy to look at it.
1) For daily lists/check-ins: Is it better to start unreasonably small on the commitments I make to myself to complete everyday, and then build up to what I'd consider a "full load"? I don't really trust myself to know how much I can reasonably get done in one day, and so far my track record is that I pile on the things and then I procrastinate. (Demand resistance, don't have the skill of estimating how long a task will take.) So, knowing that, what would y'all recommend? I'm guessing it's better to build up my "I say I will do this, and therefore I WILL" integrity first... thoughts would be appreciated.
2) Taking breaks: SO. We're trying to abstain from compulsive procrastination, time bingeing, and for me personally I'm trying to abstain from harshly critical negative self-talk (which helps keep the procrastination cycle going). In my first attempts to set a timer and complete all the tasks on my check-in list, I haven't scheduled any "fun time" for myself, and then I feel like my work will never end...
How do you handle fun time or taking a break? How do you allow yourself the kindness of resting for a little while without it turning into another procrastination moment?
3) How have you built integrity in following your calendar? I suppose this is an offshoot of question 1 above. Since I make appointments for myself to do things and then don't follow them, maybe it would be better for now to abandon scheduled events and just stick with 15 minute bursts to complete activities on my to-do list. Any thoughts would be appreciated. (Thankfully I'm self employed so I have the luxury of this flexibility.....haha. A blessing and a curse.)
4) What are the ways that have worked well for you, to support yourself when you're feeling down? Theres' the list of P.A. Tools, and I have many resources at my disposal regarding changing my negative self-talk... is there anything else I'm missing? What do you do when you feel yourself dying to procrastinate, or when that voice says "yeah, you're SO WONDERFUL for doing the dishes... what a HUGE achievement *sarcasm*" and then you just want to numb it out by surfing on the internet?