Hello everyone, I'm new.
Hi to everyone reading this. I'm in the UK, female, and I'm working part-time and supposedly studying a degree and completing some training part-time. I'm glad to be here, and I particularly hope I can be of help to people, encouraging and buddying up! So feel free to message me if you want an accountability partner. I would definitely benefit from having one....
I feel that my biggest procrastination is in not stopping being a procrastinator. Deep down I feel like I could do it, and just from that moment on get on with life and do things and leave all the avoidance and self-sabotage in the past. I think it will take a big, radical decision, and I don't know why but I feel I'm not ready to make it. I am sure I can't be the only one? Anyone else?
However, practically, I have a terrible problem with deadlines, and like many others here have failed things because of not handing in coursework and so on (I don't think I've ever in my life handed in coursework on time, and despite doing OK in exams the highest grade I've ever received for coursework is a D. Most are U.). In fact, right now I am almost six weeks beyond a deadline for two pieces of work, and I haven't even contacted my tutors or the relevant institution about it, let alone completed them. And they should not be very difficult! I'm in a positive mood at the moment, but feel I could do anything constructive right now apart from that overdue coursework.
I'm ashamed to say that I initially started out on here reading lots about people's problems with clutter, just because that is one area I have no problems with. I wondered if I could be a practical help, but also I felt good about myself for a little bit, making the comparison. And then it occurred to me: it's not how much or in what way you are procrastinating, it's what the procrastinating is doing to your life.
That seemed an important realisation to me. Procrastination is making me miserable, and holding me back, and the fact that I don't have clutter is completely irrelevant. Sometimes I have days when though not depressed I stay in bed for hours because "the whole day is wasted if I've not got up and started doing things by ten o'clock". Goodness knows how I can keep telling myself that when I know it is not true! The guilt and shame over one task can stop me eating and washing.
Well that's enough of that. Having read about some of your experiences it feels great to know I'm not alone, but I hope to get to know some of you a bit more too so we can support each other. And get stuff done!