I need help
I've been a chronic procrastinator all my life. It is ruining my life. My affliction is where I just can't rip myself off of the thing I'm using to procrastinate with (ie the computer). Then I get stuck in this mindset and I just want to procrastinate more and more. It is so bad for me that I believe that I know that I need outside help in order to be able to do what I have to do. Even when someone tells me to do something I have to do I desire to procrastinate instead. It's so bad. When I do what I have to do I dream of procrastinating instead. It's sick!
My potential is being RUINED by procrastination and I don't know what to do. I fear that I will end up on the streets even though I have so much potential!!
So glad to be here with you guys.
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bassline, i think you've come to the right place. I am the same way and so many people here are. I have to fight my urge to procrastinate every day. I have to say that this fellowship has been extremely useful in that daily struggle. It is very encouraging to me to join with others struggling with the same thing.
One thing icemountainguy37 said i have to highlight:
I find that is so true for me. I might even call it "discomfort." It was very shocking to me to admit to myself that i often procrastinate for hours, even days, to avoid a little discomfort. But, that is what i am. I have admitted that to myself, and it is easier to overcome once i've admitted it. I learned that all here. So that's why this place is so good for me. I hope it will be for you, too.
I dont know if you explored this forum much, but the most popular hang-outs are the Daily Check-ins at http://procrastinators-anonymous.org/forum/6 (you can see today's on the right sidebar), and chat at http://procrastinators-anonymous.org/chatbox which is also in a tab at the top.
Use these tools however they work for you. Check-in is the more permanent, concrete to do list - accountability place to start your day and refer back to and keep yourself on goal.
The chat is an ongoing motivational tool to help you stick to your check in. It's also a place to "talk yourself thru things." And, while working, ppl can hear chat beeps going off. we call that "beeps of solidarity" because it's comforting to know that we're all in this together, that people are in chat working thru their issues just like you, even if you're not reading the actual posts.
more info on the mechanics of checking in is at url: http://procrastinators-anonymous.org/node/2471
fall down seven times, get up eight - japanese proverb
Hello baseline I am in the
Hello baseline I am in the same boat as you and you should read my intro post to see where I'm coming from. But I have something to tell you, often we're afraid to start working because we think it's dangerous and will draw us away from our present comfort. But in reality, how often are you comforted when you are procrastinating, doesn't it feel bad not doing what you're suppose to be doing and instead just ignoring. IMO I feel it takes more energy to procrastinate then to just start the task. So what I mean to say is life ain't perfect man, it's not always butterflies and rainbows and you're not going to always feel like doing your work. in fact you will feel quite the contrary, to keep just randomly browsing on the internet. But you got to realize that it's ok to feel this way and that doesn't mean you will end up on the streets. What you have to do is take control darn it. You have to take control of your life because that's the only thing you got control over so if you give that up and let your laziness or fears stop you. Well then, what's the point? You got to be brave and trust yourself and recognize if you do take a step into the unknown leaving your computer behind you'll be ok anyways, things will be ok your work won't eat you working towards a hard goal won't kill you. You got to take the plunge and keep going and trusting. To me procrastination is all about self trust, the reason we procrastinate is because we are so damn afraid of feeling displeasure. We're so afraid of just stepping away from that non incessant daily self chatter which consumes are minds which keeps us lulled. But what I say is bullocks with it, to heck with it I am what I am and I am not afraid to step into a zone of the unknown. I am not afraid to put away the self chatter. It's time to move forward my friend just go one step at a time I hope this give you some inspiration.