Procrastinators Anonymous is a fellowship of men and women who share their experience, strength and hope with each other that they may solve their common problem and help others to recover from chronic procrastination.
introducing
Hello,
Just joined so perhaps a little introduction is in place.
I'm a 36 year old man from Europe (English is not my mother tongue, so sorry for the mistakes...)who has been struggling with procrastination for a few years now. Before that, I was procratinating as well, but it didn't really affect my life. But now I feel it limits me. I have a great job, I'm studying to get an extra master's degree. Yet somehow I seem stuck. At work, I feel I can do so much more; but I always postpone things and end up doing nothing (as I like to call surfing the web). I can do so much better, also in my studies.
I'm also a really shy guy, which doesn't help either. I fear rejection, I fear discussion... so i want my work to be perfect. Since I can not obtain perfection, I guess I choose to postpone work, untill I get the inspiration for perfection (which never comes). I don't prepare meetings, because I'm too shy to give my opinion: what if they think i'm stupid?? And of course, if i don't prepare my meetings, i actually have nothing to say. So it has become a vicious circle, and I havent yet succeeded breaking it.
So I wonder if anyone else over here has the same problems (procrastination and shyness)
Danny
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Welcome Danny
Hi Danny . My name is Richard.I also suffer from Procrastination and I have trouble with anxiety and shyness. I also suff the web and watch TV when I should be working on projects at home. Just want you to now your not alone. Don't any advice since I am new at dealing with my procrastination and deoression and shyness I hope this group is helpful for both of us. Best Wishes Richard-bklyn
Greetings, Danny
As for the shyness, I think I do have a tip. It works for me. Ask yourself:
Do you like all people you have ever met? Do you like all the ideas that people present at the meetings? Did you ever think someone was stupid?
Of course you don't agree with everybody and there must be some people you don't like. Then it wouldn't be fair if everybody liked you and your ideas. It is important that you like your ideas. Other people don't have to.
I want the people I like to like me. As for the others - if they don't, no big deal. :)
Thanks
Thank you for the tip! I will try it, but these things take time - I have to start thinking about things in a whole new way...
Yes, it does take time
Yes, I understand that.
I taught myself this perspective when growing up. Since I was a pretty unpopular kid (geek), it saved me. Thanks to this philosophy I became a quite self-confident (though wierd) adult.
hi danny
i am shy also, but maybe not quite as shy as you. I do hesitate to give my opinion often, but sometimes i still can, when i am confident.
But, of course, i definitely share the procrastination. You description sounds just like me. And many others here. I believe you will find solidarity in this fellowship as i have.
Welcome.
fall down seven times, get up eight - japanese proverb
Welcome Danny
Be confident. Stay focused. One thing at a time.