Hi, my name is Jacob. I joined this site about a week ago, but things are starting to get really bad. They've always been this bad, but I guess things are starting to surface. I failed two tests this week that I should have passed, but I studied for them the day I took them. I have another test in my core subject that I, again, am going to have to study for tomorrow (the day of the test). I was so upset that I falied the test that I was having very dark thoughts about how to handle it. You see, procrastination has ruined my life for as long as I can remember and I seem to be addicted to doing it. I feel out of control and helpless. I am ready to stop. I can't let it ruin my life anymore, but I am realizing that I can't do this alone. After doing some research, I also learned that people actually contemplate suicide over problems procrastinating, and that my assumption that people aren't experiencing as much agony about it as I am is false. I'm ready to take my life to places that I can't take it with this haunting me, and I am ready to change. Dunno how i'm gonna do it. but just me being on this site is a step in the right direction. Any feedback would be great. After wasting the entire day, I knew that I had to log onto this site and make my first post. I am sick and tired of it.
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To Jacob jakethasnake
Welcome to PA, I see that you joined a few weeks ago.
[EDIT: I had originally posted here a suggestion that you add your daily check-in post to the GROUP's post for the day, rather than doing your own separate daily check-in thread each day. But I see that you've now figured how to participate in the group check-in thread, starting Nov. 18th. So thanks for that.]
Congratulations for joining PA and checking in
I really want to ENCOURAGE you. You are very BRAVE to join PA and begin your recovery. I know the despair that procrastination can cause. We're glad you're here.
Welcome to a place of hope!
I also had your problem when I attended school. It got much worse in university and I feel I didn't live up to my potential because of it. After working many years, I went back to school part-time at night and worked full-time, except for a few months here and there. All the exam anxiety and procrastination issues surrounding exams and essays that plaqued me during high school, undergrad and grad school disappeared!
I found my procrastination problems get much better if my personal life is going well. So make sure you schedule in some fun and get out and meet with friends.
Go to your school counsellor to talk about your problems. It will really help!
This is a good resource for students who are battling procrastination. It's helpful to break your work into "baby steps" by planning on studying a chapter at a time or whatever you need to get through each course.
If you find you are procrastinating with some subjects, but not all subjects, perhaps you should examine whether you should take more of the courses you don't procrastinate with.
Would a study buddy or an "accountability partner" help you? You could report in on your progress every day.
Good luck with your school. Remember you are not alone!
Sorry to hear you're having such a rough time of it. I hope you'll find much that is helpful here at P.A. -- I found a lot!
Here are some things you might try or have a look at:
- Does your school/college/university have free counseling for students? If so, I strongly recommend giving them a try. Counseling was very helpful to me at a time when I felt panicky about school.
- There is a great list of "tools" for procrastinators here at http://procrastinators-anonymous.org/files/PA_Tools.html . I have found this useful enough that I put it in my phone memos to have handy wherever I am!
- If you click the Articles button in the P.A. page header, there are links to other useful suggestions.
You have started the journey toward finding what works for you--that is a great thing! Best wishes to you for feeling calmer and trying things out!
Hey there, I am wingartist. A new member as well. I am like that too.
I just had my quater exams and one of them haunted my thoughts because I had trouble with studying at the best time possible. I am worried that one subject's average may go down, and would take longer to raise it up by the end of semester. Anyway, I am a senior at high school.
I understand your problems. But let me tell you something. This is a good place to let out your inner thoughts by reading other intro comments on this sites, and read the meeting materials. Also, if you want to be introduced publically, you can join in the meetings every Sunday. I tried it, and they welcomed me warmly.
Anyway, you can surf this site for just a small amount of hours without ever to feel time wasting for a long time. Like what other strategies these users have experienced, you can join in as well. Take your time to transition. It will take a long time till you make an accomplishment in overcoming procrastination.
One tip for this time: Use small steps to reach your goals. Again, welcome to PA. I am still learning this site since I am a newbie. But I have lots to overcome since my past memories like you. Be brave and good luck. Wish me luck as well !