Procrastinators Anonymous is a fellowship of men and women who share their experience, strength and hope with each other that they may solve their common problem and help others to recover from chronic procrastination.

Wednesday 18 March 2009



Clement's quote and bGG's graphics...

Thanks to the fellowship here for inspiration from others' successes as they recover and for the solidarity to keep going after lapses.

Journey 9 am

Gah!  I have a million things to do today and all of them urgent! 

I don't think I'll be tempted to procrastinate today because my sense of urgency is very high, but I will stay connected here to keep myself focused in a non-stressful way.  

First, check on the problem I was called about last night - 5 minutes.   Second, prepare for 9:30 meeting.  after the meeting, large quantities of coffee, then chatboxing my way through the rest of the day.    


You won't reach your destination by pretending you're somewhere other than where you are. - Steve Pavlina

keep on trucking

I really love this site because I can 1. read 2. write 3. pray 4. abstain from procrastination to the best of my ability 5. practise the steps all in one shot.

That saves so much time for me right there.  I don't have to try to connect with someone by phone nor meeting   with someone that doesn't really understand.

Trust me, I have a loooooooooooooooooooooog way to go but I feel some hope again.

I did get to the store- left after 1 because I could not find car keys, or mail box key (did not get the mail for almost a week because I could not get the key)

The accountant told my husband she was waiting for a receipt from me (I think she may need this web site too). I had it yesterday but could not find it today. I "may" have found it because I found one that did not have the year but I am not sure if that was the one. I was angry with myself because if I would have faxed it to her when I had it yesterday, I would not have had to look today. I feel like I always get 99.8% done and then some how never feel like I really complete things because of things like this. If I don;t find it by tommorrow, I will just fax her the one with no date- she doesn;t even need it- she has the amount. Then I feel apprehensive like somehow, because of this, it will mess up everything.

 It is 8 pm. I need to make up a worksheet for my son and I have not started, He has a algebra quiz tomorrow.

I did not walk, I need to do it 1st thing, or I will not get out there. I was counting on going with my friend and I am not in the routine right now.

I need to be kinder to myself. I am between jobs right now. I have a huge amout of paperwork and decluttering and sorting to do.

I havea bunch of letters to write.

I have a bunch of legal things I need to get going.

I have made progress- I have not shut down. That is a miracle in itself. Someone shared how they used to "run" . Mr too and I didn't "run".

I have the hope that my life can become smoother and I don't spend all my time spinning my wheels trying to keep afloat.

Thank you for letting me share.

CI do it now GREAT QUOTE

I am not sure if this is the right place to post - still.


I have bn off the site a few days - a new thing to have demand resistance about - posting on the site.  Ok, progress, progress.


I have bn procrastinating about one thing in particular.  Talking to someone I have  alot of respect for to get advice on  a business/family matter.  the decision is holding me back from moving forward.  I suppose its a self esteem issue.  I do not feel worthy of his time.  FEEL is the key work I KNOW I am.  He wants to help people.  It does not FEEL important enough.  

Just posting this makes me feel a little closer to calling.  This feels like  a big hurdle.


Thx for listening.


Goal: think about how I can take action on this (small steps) 

CI do it now

did it - TG!!!

Breaking down phone calls

Hi dotnow,

Ooh, I hate making difficult phone calls!  Best of luck with yours. . . I bet it will go fine, and he will be flattered that you value his advice.

One of the hard things about phone calls is that they are hard to break down into smaller tasks (it's hard to make half a phone call!)  A couple of the things I've done as small steps are to look up the phone number and put it near the phone, and to jot down the things that I want to say so that they're clear in my mind.

And, whenever possible, I use email! Wink (Gives me time to think & phrase how I want to say things, and I don't have to worry about catching the other person at a bad time.  Gives them time to respond at their own pace, too.)  


Recycler CI 6:35pm EST

Hi Pro Buddies!

Continually re-qualifying for my other programs, the last couple of weeks! ((sigh)) But glad to be here, too! :)

Last week I had my car fixed. However what they fixed didn't last, so I had to take it back in this morning, rather than go to the gym. Or rather, I did go to the gym, but only had enough time to shower and get ready for work.

At work I did various projects. I'm on track, even if kind of distracted by other things. Had lunch with friends. Did a couple more projects from my list in the afternoon.

Picked up my car after work. They didn't charge for labor, since they had not correctly fixed the problem last week.

Arriving at home, I emailed a trusted friend, which helps me sort out things in my head. I've fixed & eaten dinner, so now after doing my CI, I'm ready to begin the evening ;)

I think I'm feeling well enough to do some light housework ;)

Have a great night, everyone! :)



Thank you, gals & guys, for being here! :)

CL mantra day 11/help from YOU

Today, when i could not get myself going, i was inspired by constance and others in chat. I could not have got myself going, it was their ideas, encouragement, and suggestions that gave back my motivation.

step 1 -- i am powerless.

step 2 -- help came from external--in this case ppl here.

thank you!

and once today i had to use my mantra to add god's goodness to the stress in my mind.

the touch of the master's hand:

"fall down seven times, get up eight" - japanese proverb

Clement, you're so

Clement, you're so welcome!

I'm glad you could get something done and feel a bit better about yourself now. I hope the rest of your day goes smoothly and a little bit the way you wish it to go.



"if i feel guilty about my procrastination, i will get LESS done, if i dont feel guilty, i will get MORE done." - Clement


rec ci

I am having trouble getting back into the groove after being out of the office, but at least I have been making it into the office pretty early and getting a few things done. I need to celebrate the small successes and not feel guilty as the great day-starter says!

Things to do:

Check TR file for docs. - make sure all docs finalized and in order; if not, call TR

Call GB with Q. and draft docs

Draft docs for LC

Work on GR filings - routine and appeal

Hope all are having a productive day and are patting yourselves on the back for each small step you are able to take!


tech query

oops no query, i just had to restart the browser and graphics reappear, wish I understood why

e for today

I am really struggling with this these days. Today I am going to try to celebrate whatever I get accomplished. So many scary piles of things to deal with that I have been escaping into crossword puzzles.

take second dose of meds and finish the dishes.

i almost got the entire sink of dishes done and then i had this feeling of anxiety and had to check back in here. now finishing the last of the silverware

okay, that is done, some miscellaneous things are away. now doing 15 minutes of research on short term rentals in california

did a little research then went out to do some yardwork: 60 degree weather can not be ignored! Then on the phone with Mom. The living room is still messy: time to make up the bed.

bed is made, counter is clearer: it would be good to think about dinner.

'asking for help to do the next right thing'

Showing up

I hope I am in the correct check in spot.

Right now I am not sure what to do. I did my program basics, helped my son and then my original plan changed. I was supposed to meet a friend to walk, but she called and said she was sick.


I "feel" like doing nothing, kind of like celebrating for getting through the tax stuff of yesterday.

I wanted to do outside stuff around the house because the weather originally called for sun and warm weather, but it is almost noon and it still looks like rain.

I want to drive to the store and library and swim at the pool, but I need to be home by 3 for the kids and it takes at least 35 min 1 way to get there, at least 1 hr at he gym, at least a couple hrs for other stuff, etc.

If I take a shower now, I know I won't get to the pool, but I will get out to the store and be home by 3.

If I keep going in circles, I won't do anything and it will be 3 before I know it.

I read in one of the book reviews:

Procrastinator's code - unrealistic assumptions that perpetuate delaying.

everything I do should go easily and without effort

there's a right answer and I'll wait till I find it.

I can really relate to the last one right now.

I am grateful that I signed up my son for soccer yesterday without paying a late fee.

I do have to go the store, so the best thing is 1shower, store and do a "check in" then

I am definitely going into the next level if I don't do "something"

"Self-critical, catastrophic and apprehensive thoughts can make it impossible to move beyond the inevitable obstacles of daily living."

Thank you.

you are in the right place!

Hi Vic!

Yes, there are a lot of areas in the forums here, and you have found the right one!

Welcome! Talk to you later! :)



Thank you, gals & guys, for being here! :)


i know what you mean about the paralysis you spoke of here: There have been many a day that i sat on the couch, unable to get up, as if my butt was nailed to the seat. I *wanted* to get up, i just could not.

I am so incredibly grateful that that has only happened one time since i've been here (1 year in 2 days). That is really amazing to me. It's the cure (or at least a significant part of it) that i'd prayed for so many times sitting there on the couch.

as for the organization, yes, we all post to each day's thread as you suspected.

the touch of the master's hand:

"fall down seven times, get up eight" - japanese proverb

welcome back vic

yes this is the right place. congrats.

i would just like to say that waiting til i have the perfect answer is a huge problem for me too. Ironically, when both options are very close in quality, i have an even harder time choosing, constantly figuring to see which is the slightly better option. I kno that if they're that close, i shd just pick one at random. I kno people who do that, and it irritates me. But they are healthier than i am, so i shd copy them.

the touch of the master's hand:

"fall down seven times, get up eight" - japanese proverb

Agnus ci 10:45am, 1:15pm; 6:50pm

Yesterday was not productive according to my to-do list. Thanks for reminders to avoid the guilt trap! Today's MITs:

  • DONE! Resynch pda
  • PROGRESSED! Nail dates for the remaining Onsites
  • NOTHING DONE - AP weekly report
  • ON WAY - OA AWOL - (arrive in time to visit awhile)

In addition I would like to make beginnings, however small, on these to-do's:

  • AP scrapbook
  • sked next AP webinar series
  • BEGUN! send my former evals
  • write/mail networking notes
  • log 9am reminders to call Mom daily
  • love-notes to family and friends.

1:15 pm - Added: 20 minute call with Mom, breakfast, 15 minutes meditation, 20 minute talk with J, 20 minute power-walk which I needed to clear my head, shower, 15 minute sponsee crisis call, checking back here.

I notice that as soon as I name something a MIT or a to-do, I become not-present to it, as if just naming it disqualifies it from something I actually need to act on today...what the heck IS that? Demand sensitivity? Maybe what vic shared about our disease telling us it should be easy?  It is really hard for me to stay focused on doing what I've said I would do, when there are so many other things to do than what I named today. uuurgh... 

6:50 pm - NOticing that even though I did not achieve many MITs or to-do's, I feel better for having stayed connected here through the day. Will revisit this idea tomorrow. Hope everyone has a blessed night. Thanks for being here!

3:36p ci babarino

Love the quote and graphics!

Info req Write (done)

brief start

Calls (done)

1 ce

send names to boss (done)

12 step at noon (done)

yoga tonight!

ByGodsGrace todays CI

Thanks for using the quote and graphics today chickadee, the fellowship here inspires and encourages me daily! (I will  be happy to make a signature or add graphics to a fav scripture or quote, it inspires and gets me going, just wont promise how quick I will finish, lol!)

Praying today is better than last 2 days of lapses - solidarity to keep going! 

Feels so great to get back on the wagon :-) I will learn how to take breaks in balance without feeling guilty or hiding - balance, that is my goal!

Word and prayer for the day again: Matthew 11:28-29 cev 

“If you are tired from carrying heavy burdens, come to me and I will give you rest. Take the yoke I give you. Put it on your shoulders and learn from me. I am gentle and humble, and you will find rest.” 

Music: Crystal Lewis, Lakewood  

My to do list:  MIT… funeral program, lists/planning

Read Bible/PrayDaily CI

dd school

meet about funeral program

design program  -

update email accts

ck bank acct  YAY! Big for me! Led to being able to do 2 more things!

get ready for dentist for dd, pray

dd school 2p

dd dentist   thanks for support and prayers of chatroom, she did better than past visits and I was less overwhelmed by it as well 

planning for week, month, 3 months   baby steps still

complete, papers to F office

email job1 invoice, assemble added invitations

email job2, address corrections

email job3 invoice, schedule, call to follow up (if I have time, or Th at latest)

call A

call CM

call T  (just being aware of boundaries issues, makes dealing with friends easier, grateful and excited to find out more and grow in strength in this area)

church 7p   awesome service tonight, so glad I went!

Journey 9:30 nine thirty already? dude!

Good morning!  I've been to the gym, stopped by to check on Dad, reminded DD she is cooking dinner, checked email and calendar.   Making a todo list for the day now.   Today will be a bit easier since Mom is better and she and my brother are dealing with Dad stuff for the rest of the day.  I have a meeting at 10:30 and an online class this afternoon so I need to make good use of the next hour.  



You won't reach your destination by pretending you're somewhere other than you are. - Steve Pavlina

Dizzle, 8:54a

So, I've pretty much realized that I can't get a thing done if I have the Web signal turned on my cpu. while I made great gains Monday, I had many distractions Tues and got nothing done. None was a bigger distraction than having my Wireless Signal on. I'm going to limit myself to CI's in the morning, and checking my email before I leave for the day.

For today I have:

-med/prayer before beginning
-Neverending T3 report
-Mtg at 2p
-contact A for intrvw

Coming to my computer w/o Internet is like going to the bar w/o having a drink. Hard to do but not impossible. Now shifting to a more positive outlook as this post - after re-reading already has a defeatist tone.

Mansah's CL -noon'ish

I didn't finish my essay yesterday as planned - but I did start working on it and I'll focus on that rather than the not getting it done.

Therfore today's CL looks as following:

*Write on essay 1 and finish it - even if it's just little notes

*Do knee exercises

*Get paper from doctor



Though this be madness, yet there is method in't ~ Polonius (Hamlet)

kromer 8:30 CI

Today is pretty much MUTs, so I won't have much time to procrastinate.

*Laundry, start packing.

Scheduled: Class 9:30-1 and 3-5:45, Harambee 5:45-8, Harambee planning mtg 8-9.

*Clean bike
*Finish reading paper for class
*Prep for planning mtg

Going to clean my bike now, back around 9:20

isabo ci 825 am

That is a great image, chickadee, thank you!

My daughter was ill mon aft and night.  She was complaining of her stomach.  I thought constipation and gave her some fibersure stuff in a pudding.  Then a friend suggested gas so I gave her a glass of pop and asked her to drink it as fast as she could, and gave her a tums as well.  I patted on her back for a bit, and she seemed to feel better, even 'fluffing' and burping.  Then the pains came back.  Really badly.  Poor girl.  Hubby went to the drug store at 11 pm and the pharmacist hadn't gone home yet. He suggested a suppository.  Poor, poor girl.  Didn't like that one bit.  she and I lay down on the carpet, her bottom half on the bathroom floor, in case she didn't make it to the toilet in time.  About an hour later she stirred and let out a couple of wafts...I helped her to her feet to get to the toilet, and all of a sudden she *literally* spewed vomit.  And then she was great, slept the rest of the night through, fine all yesterday.  Shocked my husband and I ... why vomit instead of diahhrea?

Didn't get much done of anything yesterday, I was so tired.  So today I will jump in where I am and just go.  I will accomplish

- shining to a sparkle the bathroom

- unloading, loading and running dishwasher

- shining kitchen

- gathering laundry

- clearing top of microwave and fridge of clutter

- placing clutter into appropriate homes

Off to it :)

Nothing is worth more than this day  - Goethe

Falcon CI Wed. morning

Hi pro buddies,

I've always wished I could use this forum while at work.  Finally dawned on me -- d'uh! -- I could check in in the morning before I leave for work, & then again when I get back.

Intentions for today:

  • Clear off my desk first thing (while email is loading)
  • Review & update my notecards second thing
  • Immediately after lunch, review my cards again


Falcon CI not too bad

O.k., I didn't do too bad.  I didn't exactly clear my desk or review my notecards first thing, but I did do both, AND I started the workday by being productive instead of poking around.  In the afternoon, again I didn't review my cards right away, but I did get to them, despite some major resistance.

Having checked in here before going to work really made a difference!  


I need to get real about my

I need to get real about my problem with procrastiation. this disease is as serious as alcoholicisim and it has real consequences in my life. I cant ignore its ill effects.... part of me wants tp pretend that its not really an "addiction" but just a problem that will go away. I am still very much in DENIAL about my problem.

our disease

i understand. it took me years to accept this. I still am tempted to think i just 'get over it'. But that just doesnt reflect the facts in my actual life, so i am forced to accept recovery.

The good thing is that for me and others here such acceptance wass the first step along the path to recovery, so is appears your recovery from this addiction has already begun.

the touch of the master's hand:

"fall down seven times, get up eight" - japanese proverb

Wow.  That's an awesome

Wow.  That's an awesome quotation.  I have heard that suicide is a permament solution to a temporary problem, but it's tough wading out the pain.  Thankfully someone was here in the channel this morning to give me some links and I appreciated getting to knowa bout BefriendersWorldwide, it really helps to have some more contacts or people I can call for support.  I want to change, but part of gaining an emotional conception of my problem as temporary is to.... think about one small thing that I can do to help my life or better my situation, that's what the guy on the phone was saying.  He also suggested telling my therapist about how I do not know if I can distinguish reality from fantasy.  And I am going to tell this little thing to my therapist.  I do notice that when I get stressed, I go into one of my other addictions, and part of that addiction is having a fantasy hallucination.  The trouble with fantasy is that I lose touch of reality and hang on or obsess about that which is not important, another form of procrastination.  Hence my entire problem is really about procrastination, but in a way that I never dreamed of: I overwhelm myself.  I overload my brain so that I don't have to take responsibility and don't have to be present at times.  By *present* I mean ... emotionally available to myself.


Wow, just wow.  I am still feeling pretty dismal, but ..  And yet...   I need to think merely of one thing that would make it better, and take small steps.  The guy on the phone recommended doing one thing each day that scares me.  Just going out the door and meeting people and going to work and dealing with and standing up to criticism is scary.  So I feel like I literally do something that scares me everyday as it is.  I know that I don't consider myself worthy of a pat on the back, but I know anyone with half a brain would consider showing up and doing the job or going through the endeavor to be worthy of self-recognition.  I do deserve to recognize myself, even if some of the people in my life (Including my roommate and former qualifiers) have caused me some problems.


I would also like to mention that I notice that in my disease I worry about things that are not my problem.  It's like I worry about just about the only thing that I do *not* need to contend with.  I use fantasy to escape from my present dilemma or situations where I feel overwhelmed or stressed out, or even just isolated.  Isolation is a huge motivator insofar as fantasy is concerned.

keep working your program!

Hi Fudo Shin!

Keep working your program!(s)

It sounds like you are getting some good advice from BW! Keep coming back!



Thank you, gals & guys, for being here! :)

Chick CI

'responding to oneself with kindness fosters an inner abundance that others can share'. Buddhist.


lots of meetngs

I have been so, so, nonstop busy today. And now I have two tough scary things to face. Do I say no about a presentation tomorrow? How do I answer the angry message about a late project. And from now on, it's just pretty much me and big project b. Which I want to do, but lots of unstructured time can be hard.

hard decision about whether to do a certain presentation

cleaning up