Please, HELP ME!
I really need help. I'm eighteen and a senior in high school, and I have a major problem with procrastinating. I don't know what to do. I'm seriously at my wits end. I've skipped a weeks of school due to this problem, lied to my parents about skipping school when they found out, lied to all my friends about why I'm skipping and I've found out that I've failed my english class, the class where I really need the credit to graduate. So now I'm not even sure if I'll be able to graduate, and I've already gotten accepted for college. I've also found out I might be in danger of not being able to march for graduation due to my problem of skipping school due to procrastinating, if I do even graduate. I seriously don't know what to do. I'm so scared. I feel so lost, alone, and depressed. Please, HELP ME! I'm begging and crying for help. I don't know who to turn to because I don't think anyone understands this problem, and this website seems like it can change my life and save my life. Please, I really need to turn my life around. I don't know what to do if I don't graduate this year, the shame and embarassment I would feel for not graduating would just be too much for me to handle. I've even thought about running away, although I know it would only cause more problems because running away from your problems never solve anything. That's why I'm here today, because I'm so sick of this controlling my life and killing me slowly. PLEASE HELP ME!
I've also realized that the problem of procrastinating has caused me to lose my motivation for living.. I'm not saying I'm suicidal, cause I'm not, but I just feel as if life is pointless, I really need help..... :((
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I'm in the same position you
I'm in the same position you are. This is my second day of skipping, but I'm failing most of my classes. The shame and the guilt are taking over my life, and I wish i could have someone in my life understand. I want to tell my mother, maybe she will understand, but she isn't the most understanding. Especially when she finds out I'm skipping. Among my friends and classmates I'm so embarassed by how slow I am in class because I don't do my homework. I know you haven't posted anything in more than a year but if you still use this website please reply back and tell me if you overcame this problem.
help for cmyang
Even though it doesn't feel like it yet, you've already begun recovery, just by coming here and asking for help. That's evidence of Step 1: We admitted we were powerless over procrastination, and our lives had become unmanageable. Most of us then came to believe that a Power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity, be that a traditional understanding of God, or this group here as a Higher Power, or just the concept of Good Orderly Direction (G.O.D.).
So already, cmyang, you are growing in the right direction. Keep coming back, we need each other here and it sounds like you'll fit right in. Thanks for sharing.
Oh my, oh my.
first, english credit for college...can you talk to your teacher, explain all that you have been going through, how turned around and upside down you feel? Is writing an essay on procrastination an option for turning your grade? Or how about taking english in the summer? Either way, you will have to talk to someone to keep your place in college.
next - and I do remember all too well those years, and what I am saying - you need to talk to your parents. I know that may seem impossible. I am thinking of me then, and my stomach twists suggesting this, but, really, next to yourself, they are who you want to respect and trust you. And they will be around in twenty years, whereas those spend so much time with now in and around class, well, their opinion doesn't really matter. You do.
Please, I really need to turn my life around. I don't know what to do if I don't graduate this year, the shame and embarassment I would feel for not graduating would just be too much for me to handle. I've even thought about running away, although I know it would only cause more problems because running away from your problems never solve anything
Again, you matter. This is your life, not anyone else's. And, when you rise above your problems to set things right, your self esteem and confidence shoot right up and (although they don't matter) other people will see you being strong and confident and have respect for that. Though what they think doesn't matter.
The thing about this site is that we are looking to be held accountable for our actions. Procrastination is a huge bane on our existence, we fight it every day. We find ways to help ourselves, and here we talk and share. And we hold ourselves accountable.
As much as you don't want to, you know you have to talk with your parents. Hold yourself accountable. You can do it.
And use us, this site, to help yourself climb your hurdles. You have done a great job of finding this site and opening up.
Let us know what you choose to do - we are here :)
Nothing is worth more than this day - Goethe