Procrastinators Anonymous is a fellowship of men and women who share their experience, strength and hope with each other that they may solve their common problem and help others to recover from chronic procrastination.
Hi, new here
Just found this site today while surfing for information on all-nighters, actually!
I'm a lifelong procrastinator and I have occasionally had other addictive problems (most notably smoking, although I quit nearly 4 years ago). I too am a PhD student who is really behind and who did most of my work, throughout my life, in a last-minute panic. Even though I really hated putting myself in that position when I did my MA, I have found myself in the exact same situation now.
I have put off just about everything, from taking a shower in the morning to getting married (just now finally accomplished that, about a month ago!). I'm not really sure if I am afraid of failure or just afraid to try in the first place. I'll have to do some exploring here and see what you all suggest!
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Welcome Mander and a question for JULIE
Dear Mander,
Welcome! I too am new to the site and already so grateful to have found it! I am also working on my PhD dissertation -- or not working as the case may be. It feels SO TERRIBLE. This has been going on for me for years and years.
Which leads me to my question: Julie -- I read your post above, and, eventually, I realized that I think I need a coach for this! I might never have realized I could use that tool but for you sharing that so THANK YOU. I wanted to ask you how you found your dissertation coach?
Best,
Nan
Welcome!
Hi Mander,
Welcome to the group! Congratulations on your marriage also. I can sympathize with you because I just finished my Ph.D. about a year and a half ago. It took me 7 years to finish but I finally got done (with the help of a dissertation coach). I was working full-time and had about a two hour one-way communte to class, so that added to the difficulty. I finished my coursework pretty quickly but drug out the dissertation for about 2 or 3 years longer than I should have. I'm like you, and always doing everything at the last minute. It can be a stressful way to live. I've only been a member here for a few weeks, and I don't want to sound overly dramatic, but it really has changed the way I live. My daughter told me last night that she enjoyed doing things with me so much more now because I'm on time. I didn't realize how aggravating me always being late for everything was to her, but evidently it was.
For me the book-ending is the most helpful. Checking in there really helps keep me on track and helps me get work done. That would probably be helpful to you with the dissertation work. It's also nice to talk to other people who are experiencing the same problems and challenges.
Good luck on getting your study done!
Julie