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I signed up to the site as a result of the BBC radio program about procrastination. Unfortunately, it took 7 weeks for me to get activated because Pro was so busy and of course the effects of Sandy. I hope Pro is doing ok and the apartment is now warmer! I am very grateful to be here finally.
I live in the UK. And I am a serial procrastinator. If I can put something off, I will. I worry all the time about the things I haven't done. I frequently don't return messages from my friends for days or weeks because I read them and think that I'll reply later. I have behaved in a ridiculous fashion towards prospective clients because I felt bad about something I had promised to do but couldn't. I find focus extremely difficult and sporadically employ different strategies to overcome my procrastination tendencies. I own a reasonable amount of self-help books although I hate calling them that.
My mum is terminally ill and in a nursing home now. She is only 62. There is much to be done for her and I need to get more done so that we can make arrangements, sell the house and make her life as comfortable as we can while keeping up with my work, my studies and my hobbies which keep me sane!
I am tired of procrastination. It feeds into my depressive tendencies and gives me reasons to feel bad about myself. I am an intelligent, practical and caring woman but this is lost through my procrastination. I am glad to be in the company of people who are similar to me. I hope that I can stick with the site and use it to help me get more done and be more at peace with myself.
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What a good name!
It is nice to meet you here. I am from the UK too, and like you "if I can put something off, I will". I very much identified with that phrase. I am also glad to have found this site and I am already comforted to see from the messages on this board that I am not alone with my (infuriating, unreasonable & depressing!) behaviour.
I was interested that you mention that you heard about this site on the BBC. Do you remember what the programme was called? I will try and search for it.
I am so sorry to hear about your mum.
Wishing you all the best,
BBC Radio prog
It was this one. http://www.bbc.co.uk/programmes/b01m5hhw It's called Helping Hamlet.
I hope you find it interesting. I believe the founder of this site is featured but I could be wrong.
Thanks for your best wishes. It's awful but it is also life. And we are not the first nor the last sadly to suffer it. i try and remember that when the days are bad and the list of things to do seems endless.
Thanks for link Knitfisher
Indeed interesting. We are definitely not alone, as you say Knitfisher. I found also interesting that the presenter of the progremme (RP) seemed to get some insight to her problems from the no-nonsense psychoanalysist at the end. I do agree what the guy was saying who said he would file it under Anxiety Disorders. I think that is spot on.
I am new here as well. Congratulations on following through after the seven week wait. That says a lot about your willingness to change!
I have found the daily check-ins extremely helpful this week. I get a lot of satisfaction from putting a line through my daily tasks as I finish them. Before, I would often not getting anything done at all in a day. Now I get things done and it feels great. :)
Best of luck!
Thanks for the welcome
Feels good to be among people who understand. Haven't done so well this morning, and ave to go visit a client soon, but as someone above said, "progress not perfection" (also used by flylady who has helped me a bit with my house but can be a bit too evangelical for some)
Here's to onwards, sideways, upwards and sometimes backwards.
welcome to the flock :)
sorry about your mum, that must be hard for both of you (62 is so young these days).
Stick around, and remember 'progress not perfection'. I don't think there's a 'cure' as such for our procrastination, because it's so ingrained, but there are many many tools available to us that can halt its advance and cut it back. I'm grateful for the wisdom I find here that reminds me I CAN actually do things I've been putting off if I just start in the first place!! And chatbox bursting sessions are a revelation.
See you around :)
Jane in London
It's an inside job...
Hi Jane, Thanks also for
Thanks also for your wishes about mum. 62 is so very young, and it's worse that she is young-minded but her body is just failing in the face of cancer. She owns more trainers than I do and refuses to be an old person, because she isn't.
We will progress towards being better everyday. That is all we can do.
Well done & welcome
Could be the best decision you've ever made!
Sunday November 11
Armistice Day, Remembrance Day. A perfect day to begin.
I'm in the UK too. :)
It's nice to meet you and sounds like you'll be at home here and will benefit from some of the tools like the check in or chatbox.
Best wishes for you and with the work you kindly do for your mum,
With solidarity, take care,
fellow procrastinator, Wolke.