This is a grumble about my beloved other half - I really don't know the best way of handling this.
My husband is severely disabled - I have to help with a lot of basic care, as well as any task required in the house. He can use the computer, mostly with a mouse, but can type a few sentences at a time. I am used to doing vritually everything for the two of us, and that doesn't bother me too much. But this morning's comment from him really annoyed me. We were discussing the day's plan, starting off with going shopping together, and going to look at a bungalow we might buy. Then he said "But I need to be back by 3pm so I can watch the football on television. While I'm doing that you can do your long list of things to do". By which he particularly means a complicated letter to our solicitor, a claim on our travel insurance, and several phone calls to sort out various problems, and then the housework etc, etc. And did I mention the lemon meringue pie I haven't made yet that he wants?
I'm used to being nagged for things I have procrastinated on, but for him to say he's going to relax watching TV while I have to do the chores has really annoyed me, and I told him so. I'm the one that works full-time and I want to spend some of my Saturday relaxing! In fact comments like that just increase my "demand resistance" mode.
There - that's off my chest - maybe I'll get round to doing the solicitor's letter later.