new here & figuring the site & PA out
Hi- I just joined (well, joined a couple weeks ago & just got on today). I am constantly overwhelmed with too many tasks, including some ambitious ones, and nevertheless find myself wasting hours of time when I really do want to be productive and when I know for sure that if I can only start, I will even get interested. I am sick of living like this (and at a point where I need to take hold of my career and finances or I am sunk).
I don't know about the 12-step thing, though-- I just looked at all the questions, and -- how can you do them if you 1) don't believe in a higher power, and 2) have pretty much only hurt yourself by doing this? It's all about higher power & amends to those you've hurt-- makes sense for AA, but I can;t really fit it in to my experience. I have sure hurt myself, though.
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Welcome, I was feeling the same way about step work for PA vs my other 12 step groups, but as they say, "And how's that working for you?"I am "starting" to think maybe it's the only way, it took me 4 years to believe in my other step groups. Since I don't know anyoe in PA who did the steps for PA I may shift to cla for step work with this where I see the changes happen to the people who have gone through them.
@cooncat re 12 steps
It is absolutely not necessary to follow the 12 steps in order to benefit from this program. They are there if you want them.
Self-improvement is the name of the game, and your primary objective is to strengthen yourself, not to destroy an opponent. Maxwell Maltz
Welcome Hypatia and Cooncat
I am pretty new as well :-)
Don't let yourself get stuck on any feeling you need to believe in a specific higher power. Take what works for you here and leave the rest without worrying about it. We all have our own paths to follow. Even just talking/thinking about what you do - and why - can help clarify things in your own mind and help you to focus on where you need to put your energy.
Hiya, I've just joined
Hiya, I've just joined too.
I can't cope with the Higher Power stuff at the moment. My experience of "God" doesn't really tally with what's in the 12 steps. So I'm just leaving that bit out.
I have hurt people through my procrastination, because people depending on me to do things have lost out when I haven't done them, sometimes quite significantly. (I'm not going into detail because it's still too distressing for me to talk about). If you are in the position where that doesn't apply to you, then don't worry - that's one step you don't need to do. But have a think and make quite sure it doesn't apply to you.
Here's to us both starting to make some changes in our lives.