Procrastinators Anonymous is a fellowship of men and women who share their experience, strength and hope with each other that they may solve their common problem and help others to recover from chronic procrastination.

Just want to do things simply

I had mentioned in a previous post that I had been viewing (including articles and various other information)this website since Fall '05. Today I was reading some of your posts about different techniques used to over come Procrast. Like the "Now" Method and its' psychological basis or getting others involved in projects to check on work progress. It's not that I don't want help- I really just want to DO WHAT I'M SUPPOSED TO WHEN I'M SUPPOSED TO DO IT! whether I intrinsically want to or not, like NORMAL PEOPLE do. It hurts me so much that I cannot simply do that. And that it even has to BE so complicated.

Therapy is great for simplifying things

I agree with pro (again!).

A therapist can look at your situation with fresh eyes and help you look past the trees so you can see the forest.

When we are upset about something (and you sound very frustrated with yourself) we over-complicate things in our mind. Procrastinators are good at that :).

You just want to do what you are supposed to do when you are supposed to do it. THE procrastinator's challenge!

A therapist can help you also simplify what you need to think about in order to acheive that goal.

Can I ask you if you know why you can't do things? A lot of us are identifying what is holding us back from starting things (or in my case, finishing them!). I understand perfectionism is one of them, are you getting any more clues from what you are reading on this site?

Seeing a therapist

I acknowledge your suggestion for me to see a therapist but I doubt I would be able to afford one although I could research free counciling somewhere - although; It may sound weird, but I'd just rather speak to someone with the same problems as me. Even a liscenced professional cannot provide the personal identification I'm seeking. Also, I have the tendency to view people that seek "Professional help" as weak. It's like "Why can't you manage your own life and work out your own problems like an adult?" I know it's wrong to judge, but I really don't want to be one of those people, I WANT to be able to manage my own life. (Although I obviously cannot, LOL).Also, as I had mentioned, there are many reasons I can't do things: I am afraid my perfectionism will take over and have me work the 1 task( that I probably will turn into 7 pre-preparedness tasks and that I will probably mis-estimate to take 4 hours; when it really takes 8,)for 16 hours accompanied by multiple re-writes and edits and "improvements", Another reason is that I just don't want to do many of these things (although they must be done), I'm also afraid of failure, for example maybe the resume prototypes I worked on for months won't win me a particular job interview despite all the back ground research I did, etc. and then there's the ever-present thought in my mind : "You don't have to do it right now...just relax for a second..."

outside help?

You sound very upset in your posts. You might want to consider seeing a therapist. It sounds like you could really use some intensive support right now to help you get back on track.