Procrastinators Anonymous is a fellowship of men and women who share their experience, strength and hope with each other that they may solve their common problem and help others to recover from chronic procrastination.

shame about procrastinating

Don't know if this belongs on here, but I really need to vent.

I am having this horrible addition to my shame about being a procrastinator.
It is that I have been trying to get pregnant for 4 years now (1 year with infertility treatments) and there is this sense that . . . it's my fault because I waited to long!

It's really hard not to beat myself up about that, even though in my case, it's actually my partner with the known fertility issues (low sperm count).  Still. . .

And my feminist bona fides get all upset with this rhetoric as well.  But the feelings are still there.  The clock is ticking and now I have some tough choices (and acceptance) to face.  Adding guilt and shame over feeling that I have "procrastinated" is not helping. . .

Thank HP (and Pro) for this forum and bless you all for letting me get this out.


sure - this topic belongs here!

In fact, I'm moving the thread to the "Questions" area. It's not off-topic at all. I think all of us feel shame about our procrastination - or most of us, anyway. I know I do.

Procrastination is the grave in which opportunity is buried.


This is a tough situation to go through! I wish you the very best and will keep you in my prayers as you work through this.


{{{{Nan}}}} Hugs to Nan

I wouldn't count this as procrastination - having a baby is one of those things that you shouldn't do unless you are REALLY ready.  Good luck!  

Dost thou love life? Then do not squander time; for that's the stuff life is made of.  - Benjamin Franklin