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Hello Everyone
Hi everybody. My name is Mike. I've been a compulsive procrastinator since about the 4th grade. I'm 24 and have a great life. Beautiful wife and daughter, good job, house, 2 dogs, the works. My wife is, unfortunately, the brace that holds everything together. My procrastination has been a big issue in our relationship for a long time. When she's here, it's not as bad, but still pretty awful. When she goes home on vacation and I have to stay here for work, things go down the drain. I'm not going to cover my entire life story of my avoiding nature, but I want to share what's currently going on.
My wife has been out of town for a little over 2 weeks now and I have managed to mow the back yard, do half of the dishes in the sink, and 1 load of laundry. I finally mustered up the strength to go grocery shopping yesterday (i've been meaning to go for a week now) and finally get the oil changed in my car, which was 14000 miles over due. Yes, I said 14000 not 1400. My computer desk looks like a train wreck, as does much of the rest of the house.
I know I have a problem. I've realized this for quite some time now. I'm a video game junkie, I have 7 web-comics I'm dedicated to, and about 5 shows that I "have" to watch. These are all just other addictions stemming from this one I think. Fillers. Even after finding PA at work last night and really doing some serious contemplation, I still came home, let the dogs out, and hopped on the computer for my media fix. I hope I can work with this awesome group and better myself and stop putting everything off til the last minute. I tried to use the excuse of being a good "Crisis manager", but it's just that I've been procrastinating so long, getting things done in a pinch is like second nature.
Well, enough of the novel. Off to bed.
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Mike, when your wife is away...
Mike, I keep reading your post and there's something I can't quite put my finger on. I want to ask you if you're depressed. Also, I'm wondering why your wife leaves for such long periods of time (does she take your daughter)? Two weeks is a long time away from home, especially if these trips are frequent.
It sounds like you are in pain and trying to find things to distract you, to take you out of the reality of the here-and-now. You seem to withdraw from everything around you, every part of life - almost shrink into yourself. That's why I want to ask if you're depressed.
Before you were married - before you met your wife - did you have problems of being paralyzed like this?
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Procrastination is the grave in which opportunity is buried.
NetFlix
I just joined NetFlix. I wonder if I'll ever do anything productive with my free time again. :?
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Procrastination is the grave in which opportunity is buried.
Watching movies
I joined the program that Blockbuster has like netflix, and was very fearful for a while. Actually, it hasn't been a problem (yet?). I get to pick the movies I really want to see, so I'm more motivated to watch them. Also, since I can keep them for a long, long time, I don't feel the pressure to watch the movie "tonight". Also, since it has a blanket fee, I send the ones back which I don't like, and don't feel guilty since I "paid for it". Since I live in the "boonies", it's ten miles to town for renting a movie. So, Netflix has my vote for you.
video games
Yep, video games are my favorite way of procrastinating too, but before that I found other ways. I think it's the procrastination itself that we're addicted to. I've been trying to use my "screen time" as a reward for getting stuff done, but it's a work in progress. You came to the right place. J.