Procrastinators Anonymous is a fellowship of men and women who share their experience, strength and hope with each other that they may solve their common problem and help others to recover from chronic procrastination.

Tuesday April 26, 2011

Happy Tuesday, Everybody!

Have a great proactive day!


Smile Smile Smile Smile


Thanks for the thread lennon!

Work 8AM-5PM: 

-Figure out fix for low c (test low r, test high r, test add c)

-Verify all W ordered 

-Fix C issue

-Fix out C issue 

-contact v about issue 

-fix v dr

-get pns

-run sim for m [DONE]

After Work 5PM-Sleep:


-finish adding c options [DONE]

-update c w/ options 

-finish adding c photos

-write check from fs to boa

-check jo's

-send pcp and derm doctor info to aetna

-ask pcp for referral

-set up appointment with derm 

-do final cleaning/organizing of garage

-check br on wednesday  [DONE]

-check for gas leak in crawl space 

-pay ns account 

Goodmorning and TO DO

Yesterday, I was off to a very late start and not to happy.  Today, I am off to an earlier start and that makes me feel better. 

My to do so far:



Dress nicely




pack lunch/snacks

Go to work

continue to track spending

Do R


I am in crisis, and I don't know what to do.

I'm supposed to complete my degree in 17 days. the deadline for the final assignment in my final class is May 14th, 9am. 

I've had all semester to work on it, and I haven't started.

I need help. And, I don't know where to turn. My therapist says he doesn't know how to help me. 

I feel hopeless. I feel like the self-sabotage impulse has taken over.

I guess it will be okay if I fail at yet another thing. It will reaffirm everything I know about myself: that I can't finish anything, that I'm nobody, that I'm stupid. Congratulations, unconscious self-destruct program! You win again. 

it's not too late to start

Asking for an extension is a good idea, but if you start today to do your research and reading - doing some every day for the next week (break it down to reasonable daily bites - don't try to push right through the whole), you will then have a whole week to write and edit/polish it. That should be do-able. (Unless maybe you're talking a master's thesis paper?)

Even if it is not as perfect as you feel you would like or that it could have been, it will still be DONE, and so will you!

Best of luck to you!


Believe me we understand and a similar crisis is what brought many of us to this forum.   Go talk to your professor, explain the situation honestly just like you did here, and see if you can get help from him or her.   It won't be the first time they have heard the same story.    I hope you make the deadline, but even if it turns out to be impossible to meet the deadline, you have made the first step in your recovery.  Welcome. 


Self-improvement is the name of the game, and your primary objective is to strengthen yourself, not to destroy an opponent. Maxwell Maltz

hi piet

your situation sounds dire.

there have been many people here in your situation, and many of them have gotten extensions or been able to work something out with the school/company. I would definitely try that.

You may benefit from something that has been extremely important in my own life: separating your disease, say, compulsive procrastination (as in my case), from YOURSELF. You HAVE a disease, you are NOT a disease. You are a talented, intelligent person, who's struggling under a debilitating disease.

If two people were mountain climbing, and for one of them you tied their feet together and tied huge boulders they could barely life to their backs, would you fault the burdened person for not climbing as fast? No, because you would recognize the "degree of diffculty" as they say in olympic sports. In fact, you may have compassion for the burdened traveler.

It is the same with us. Have compassion for yourself, as we have compassion for you, and as God has compassion for you.

And that disease may have won this battle (but see point 1), but the war is not over, you live to fight another day!

Thank you for sharing your story with us as it most likely will encourage and strengthen others.

the touch of the master's hand:

"fall down seven times, get up eight" - japanese proverb

thanks, clement :)

these are all such helpful responses. 

I'm  grateful that anyone responded at all. It's surprising that so many people took the time to reach out. 


Thanks for putting it in these terms. It's funny. I have such difficulty believing in God, and I feel so alone with my self-recrimination, but then when other people say "we have compasion for you, and God has compassion for you," it feels reliable and true. 

thanks for saying that. 



Thank you for sharing. You are not alone anymore, most of us are here for the same reason.

I agree with Rex, about your therapist. For me, the way I look at it, my crises put me on MY KNEES - AND THAT IS WHERE I NEED TO BE. Even Christ said: Matthew 26-39"if it is possible, may this cup be taken from me. Yet not as I will, but as you will.”

Could you write one sentence?and not think in terms of the whole assignment? We are here for you, you can e-mail me as a book end buddy. An imperfect assignment is better than no assignment. If you think you are going to fail anyway, what the heck may as well write a poor paper. We have all been where you are. Keep coming back.(HUG)

PS You would be suprised at how many people here did well on a thesis, thinking it was the worst piece of garbage they ever wrote anot worthy of turning in, I have read of many best sellers whose authors felt the same way, you may surprise yourself by just somehow getting it done.

thanks, vic

reading these replies is really helping me breathe. 

this is especially helpful right now:  "my crises put me on MY KNEES - AND THAT IS WHERE I NEED TO BE. Even Christ said: Matthew 26-39"if it is possible, may this cup be taken from me. Yet not as I will, but as you will.”


Hi piet

Read your post with more compassion than you are giving yourself.

I don't know if you can complete the work or if anyone can or if you can't whether you might be given more time.

With regard to help. I have found it here, have changed quite a lot but above all am moving in the right direction and am grateful. You are welcome.

You have an honest therapist which is a blessing.

Seems like you have arrived at step one an admission of powerlessness. However painful it is it I have found it a blessing in that without this gut wrenching realisation I could not start to change.

Welcome Rexroth

thank you

I couldn't remember where I posted my comment, so I'm only reading the replies now. 

Thank you for your compassionate response. I had a better day today, even though my professor is firm in her deadlines. It's helpful to be reminded that this disaster can have positive aspects, and that step one is a good place to be.

I have been feeling so self-loathing. It's hard to remember that I deserve any compassion.  So, thank you for writing this response. 

Finding a way late check in

Wednesday 11.30 am

Thanks for the starter lennon!

Today it's time to get back into work after an Easter break, but only have an hour before I have to start the 2 hour drive to town for counselling with my husband.

Reflecting back on Easter, I only did a little of the decluttering I intended, but it does seem less scary than before. I have two full bags of clothes to take to the op shops! (charity donations).

But lots of time spent on connections with family and friends over the last few days, which has been so valuable and which I feel very happy about. In fact my younger son and his new girlfriend are still visiting which is a bit distracting, but it's wonderful he has brought her home to meet us.

And my knee has recovered enough that I did a 10 km walk into the mountains on Monday!

So back to work!

I will make one phone call and send two emails; more this evening. Also I will check banking, download USB and see if I can start my data work.

Tomorrow finishing and sending E report must be first priority.

Kind of Bummed

Hi all,

I'm happy to share that I finished a paper last felt good to finally have it done, a nice sense of completion.  I also made a difficult decision regarding new employment this week.  I feel that these past couple of months I have been able to continue moving foward despite the general ups and downs...and I feel very grateful for this.  I also feel that this is strenghtening my belief in myself and feel that my trust in a higher power is becoming stronger.  Thank you PA and all, for the support.  

That aside, I'm kind of bummed out, and I am not sure why.  I think perhaps its because i've spent a lot of energy making some big decisions, and then changing directions, and a lot of things in terms of my near future are still unclear.  And although I made the decisons I'm not sure if I made them correctly or entirely for the best reasons.  ALso, I spent so much time applying for new employment and moving towards a particular direction and now it seems I'm back at square 1--deciding to stay with my current job.  I'm wondering if this means I am stuck or procrastinating on some level or did I actually move, even despite the fact that I decided to stay with my current job--it makes me wonder if all that time that I was feeling like i was progressing because i was applying to jobs and interviewing, really was me just going in circles wasting time....or if i actually have grown in the process.

Anyway, I'm kind of scared about my future.  I think I need to go for a short walk and enjyo the nice weather given I have the day off...but have been avoiding myself with online tv all day....andwasting timethinking about the work I should be doing (another paper) vs. what i'd like to be doing and instead doing neither (watching tv).

Okay, my only to do right now I guess will be to get out the house for a vrief walk...even it is at 7pm... better late than never...i'll probably feel at least a little better. When I get back perhps I can add a few more small things for me to do...

Anyway, thanks for "listening"...


remember . . .

You can only make decisions based on the information you have at hand at any given time in your life. If, in hind sight, you think you may have erred, be gentle with yourself. There's no way to know what's going to happen in the future until it happens!

 So, once you weigh your pros and cons, and the judgements of your head, heart and gut (instinct), go forward with the assurance that you have made the best possible decision you could, working with what was available to you.

And if you have doubts in the future, it is never to late to change paths! Also consider that sometimes there is a reason life pushes us one way rather than another that may not be apparent until MUCH later.

Good luck!

Thanks Gemini


Just noticed responses today.  Thanks for your thoughts, it's true I made the best decision possible given my outer and inner situation at that particular moment in time...and it's interresting you mention that sometimes life pushes us in a particular feels that way sometimes.  :) 


Your feelings are not uncommon among those of 'us' .   I think one reason we procrastinate is because of the difficulty in transitioning to a new activity - it's very hard to finish one activity and start a new one.  We second guess our decisions to the point that we can't make decisions . . . so CONGRATULATIONS . . .you made a big decision AND finished a paper.   Now it's time to relearn how to take a moment to enjoy your success!   Remember that success when you get ready to face the next project or decision. 


Self-improvement is the name of the game, and your primary objective is to strengthen yourself, not to destroy an opponent. Maxwell Maltz

Thanks Journey

Reading comments now,  thanks Jo for your response and the congrats :)                            It nice to have the acknowledgement, and i will keep this in mind as I begin a new paper this week.


Thanks for "sharing". Congratulations on the paper and all your efforts. Change is in the air- All you have to do is "Keep showing up" . My friend told me something that helped me, "If you stare at the grass while it is growing, it seems like nothing is happening" so stop staring at the grass and do something else. All is well.

Thanks Vic

Thks for your comment....i am happy to be able to say that, yes, I do feel like change is in the air and I will work on keeping my head up and looking foward rather than staring at the grass (lol) :) 



Thanks for the thread lennon!

Work 8AM-5PM: 

-Figure out fix for low c (test low r, test high r, test add c)

-Verify all W ordered 

-Fix C issue

-Fix out C issue 

-contact v about issue 

-fix v dr

After Work 5PM-Sleep:


-finish adding c options

-finish adding c photos

-write check from fs to boa

-check jo's

-call aetna check if they will cover dermatology visit [DONE]

-do final cleaning/organizing of garage

-check br on wednesday 

-check for gas leak in crawl space 

-pay ns account 

getting into new grooves . . .

I haven't made it here much lately, but am otherwise doing pretty well at making progress on my particular areas of focus.

I'm walking to work pretty much everyday now, am going to the gym with Dave twice a week to work on the machines, I'm swimming once a week and we do yoga once a week. I will likely cut out one gym visit when kayaking starts and substitute that instead. Things will change when we start going to the cottage too, but I can kayak there, or walk, or "play" (i.e. bocce).

I have so far not filled all my free time (now that classes are over) with other projects - except upping the exercise, which was my goal.

I am starting to apply for jobs in the new field I'm studying for.

I have set a tentative date in May with my sister to go through family photos for a photo album to put together for my 50th birthday party in June.

Where I have not made progress is in doing physio, but I am seeing some improvement there just from the more general exercise.

I am also finding that my relationship has been neglected because of my work/study schedule and that it is benefiting from a little TLC too. Not that we're having any specific troubles, just that I can see - now that I have the time to "look" - that this was another area I have not been putting my best energy into. That is highlighted by it improving now with more time and attention. So that's another thing I will have to watch doesn't get neglected when I go back to class in the fall.

fudoshin : day 99 : 1:11pm

Please do not leave advice.  Thank you.  Prayers welcome. 


This is the 99th day that I have followed through with the following:

  • 90 days away from dating sites and facebook
  • 90 days of not stalking people's profiles of people I've tried to date in the past
  • 90 days of not stalking people online that I've tried to date in
    the past. (I am now back on day 62   for this).
  • No Internet chat, aside from employment or twelve-step.  This
    includes not stalking people on AIM or other chat networks, whom I've
    tried to date in the past. (I'm on day 27 of this.)
  • 56 days of exercise (I'm on day 6 of this).


Rexroth Check In

Up prayer reflection
Cleaned and tidied
Contacted landlords over water and have stayed in waiting for workers to call
Dealt with emails and mail
Chat on phone with a friend

Not sure it is late afternoon and workers still haven't been

Regards Rexroth

Rexroth Check Out

Cleaned and cleared and watched stuff on the web
Workers came and I did not see them but the hot water in back on
Evening proyers and reflection

Write a little in journal
Bed and sleep

Night Everyone


Journey 11:30

My easily distracted self is working from home today.   I have been to the gym, read and responded to email, and done my todo list.   Now I'm going to work on building a test system to install the newest maintenance.   back in a couple hours.

Self-improvement is the name of the game, and your primary objective is to strengthen yourself, not to destroy an opponent. Maxwell Maltz

katia 4.25

Scribbler- I LOVE tuesday! Not so much this semester, but yeah. How about Terrific Tuesday? Or Taco Tuesday? Ole!

Things to do today-
-Vitamins & #1 #2 #3
#1 #2 #3 #4 #5 #6 #7 #8 #9
-Bio article #4
-Bio multiple choice
-Bio short answer 1
-Bio short answer 2
-Bio short answer 3
-Math hw
-Email advisor
-Email math prof

Scribbler's Tuesday CI 9:02 a.m.

Tuesday is such a nothing day.  Not Stormy Monday, or Hump Day Wednesday, or the pre-weekend like Thursday or TGI Friday. We need a name for Tuesday. What did Mick Jagger mean by "Ruby Tuesday"? Could that work? Man, this list looks like a lot of tasks for one day. I'm thinking I need to extend my work day. I'm still just not making enough money to live on. Last week my overdraft account got activated again by an automatic draw, so I got $350 further in debt. This is very depressing. But moping isn't going to help...


  • Get up at 6 (6:30 today again, alarm setting is messed up)
  • Make bed
  • Healthy breakfast
  • Coffee, paper
  • Check-ins
  • Exercise
  • Sightreading practice


  • Music marketing
  • Update Quicken
  • Return BN contract
  • Invoice re: masters11
  • Call PNC re: insurance
  • File 1 BN (Twitter)
  • Deliver Meals on Wheels


  • Healthy lunch 
  • File hireslow
  • File 1 BN (compete?)
  • Query - BN
  • Draft Monroe article


  • Soccer practice
  • Healthy dinner
  • Unpack camping gear
  • Wash camping gear
  • Put away camping gear
  • Change guitar strings
  • Read, relax
  • Bed by 10:30

kromer 9:40 CI

Today I need to:
*Make data slide
*Update calendar, email about 3 mtgs
*Assess microscope slide (started)
*Check on expts
*Email SG about 30hrfam

*Start hybs

And I have 3 mtgs scheduled

OK, right now need to work on data slide for a few min then go to lab mtg

Vic 4/26/11

Show up (done), did basics, gratitudes, etc., made dr. apt that I put off for week, grateful did not shut down even though I sort of felt like I did because of physical problem. Would like to put extra effort into self care and gratitude today, this past week has been a real challenge to nt get into negativity and I feel like I am slipping. First great gratiude is for PA and this miracle connection, where else could I do this? Thank you PA(ers). May we all see the beauty of today because it starts here.

Tuesday, April 26, 2011
 from the book The Language of Letting Go


Some people are carriers of negativity. They are storehouses of pent up anger and volatile emotions. Some remain trapped in the victim role and act in ways that further their victimization. And others are still caught in the cycle of addictive or compulsive patterns.

Negative energy can have a powerful pull on us, especially if we're struggling to maintain positive energy and balance. It may seem that others who exude negative energy would like to pull us into the darkness with them. We do not have to go. Without judgment, we can decide it's okay to walk away, okay to protect ourselves.

We cannot change other people. It does not help others for us to get off balance. We do not lead others into the Light by stepping into the darkness with them.

Today, God, help me to know that I don't have to allow myself to be pulled into negativity - even around those I love. Help me set boundaries. Help me know it's okay to take care of myself.

From The Language of Letting Go by Melody Beattie ©1990, Hazelden Foundation

Hypatia's check-in

Back at work!

Today's plan

  • check e-mails
  • in-tray
  • private phone calls
  • today's reports
  • S's papers for tomorrow
  • AH reports



Thanks for the thread movingalong!

Work 8AM-5PM: 

-Figure out fix for low c (test low r, test high r, test add c)

-Verify all W ordered 

-Fix C issue

-Fix out C issue 

-contact v about issue 

-fix v dr

After Work 5PM-Sleep:


-finish adding c options

-finish adding c photos

-write check from fs to boa

-check jo's

-call aetna check if they will cover dermatology visit 

-do final cleaning/organizing of garage

-check br on wednesday 

-check for gas leak in crawl space 

-pay ns account 


Thank you, but wasn't me who started the thread today.
It was Lennon who graciously started today's thread.
Best wishes on all your endeavors.

(update:  I see you reposted further up the page with the edit).

My Day Today

I want to thank my Higher Power for this program, this website, the telephone and online meetings, and my life.

Thing I have done today

Went to the 7 a.m. telephone DA meeting

Things I will do today

1. Test my blood sugar

2. Have prayer and meditation morning and evening

3. Post and send out Al-Anon literature for today

4. Go to the 8:30 a.m. telephone PA meeting

5. Go to the 9:45 a.m. telephone CLA meeting

6. Get my mother's order ready

7. Eat brunch

8. Eat dinner

9. Take shower

10. Get dressed

11. Make bed

12. Wash dishes

13. Call the pharmacy

14. E-mail my supervisor

15. Go to my Internship at 1 p.m.

16. Write my paper

17. Type my paper

18. Go to the 8 p.m. telephone CLA meeting

19. Go to the 9 p.m. online EA meeting

20. Go to the 9:30 p.m. telephone CLA meeting

21. Do numbers

22. Type some things for part of my portfolio

23. Go to the 9:30 a.m. telephone PA check-in

24. Go to the 10:30 a.m. telephone PA check-in

25. Go to the 11:30 a.m. telephone PA check-in

26. Write for my monthly report

Thanks for letting me share