Tuesday April 26, 2011

Asking for an extension is a good idea, but if you start today to do your research and reading - doing some every day for the next week (break it down to reasonable daily bites - don't try to push right through the whole), you will then have a whole week to write and edit/polish it. That should be do-able. (Unless maybe you're talking a master's thesis paper?)

Even if it is not as perfect as you feel you would like or that it could have been, it will still be DONE, and so will you!

Best of luck to you!

your situation sounds dire.

there have been many people here in your situation, and many of them have gotten extensions or been able to work something out with the school/company. I would definitely try that.

You may benefit from something that has been extremely important in my own life: separating your disease, say, compulsive procrastination (as in my case), from YOURSELF. You HAVE a disease, you are NOT a disease. You are a talented, intelligent person, who's struggling under a debilitating disease.

If two people were mountain climbing, and for one of them you tied their feet together and tied huge boulders they could barely life to their backs, would you fault the burdened person for not climbing as fast? No, because you would recognize the "degree of diffculty" as they say in olympic sports. In fact, you may have compassion for the burdened traveler.

It is the same with us. Have compassion for yourself, as we have compassion for you, and as God has compassion for you.

And that disease may have won this battle (but see point 1), but the war is not over, you live to fight another day!

Thank you for sharing your story with us as it most likely will encourage and strengthen others.

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the touch of the master's hand: http://procrastinators-anonymous.org/node/1898#comment-27748

"fall down seven times, get up eight" - japanese proverb

Thank you for sharing. You are not alone anymore, most of us are here for the same reason.

I agree with Rex, about your therapist. For me, the way I look at it, my crises put me on MY KNEES - AND THAT IS WHERE I NEED TO BE. Even Christ said: Matthew 26-39"if it is possible, may this cup be taken from me. Yet not as I will, but as you will.”

Could you write one sentence?and not think in terms of the whole assignment? We are here for you, you can e-mail me as a book end buddy. An imperfect assignment is better than no assignment. If you think you are going to fail anyway, what the heck may as well write a poor paper. We have all been where you are. Keep coming back.(HUG)

PS You would be suprised at how many people here did well on a thesis, thinking it was the worst piece of garbage they ever wrote anot worthy of turning in, I have read of many best sellers whose authors felt the same way, you may surprise yourself by just somehow getting it done.

Read your post with more compassion than you are giving yourself.

I don't know if you can complete the work or if anyone can or if you can't whether you might be given more time.

With regard to help. I have found it here, have changed quite a lot but above all am moving in the right direction and am grateful. You are welcome.

You have an honest therapist which is a blessing.

Seems like you have arrived at step one an admission of powerlessness. However painful it is it I have found it a blessing in that without this gut wrenching realisation I could not start to change.

Welcome Rexroth

You can only make decisions based on the information you have at hand at any given time in your life. If, in hind sight, you think you may have erred, be gentle with yourself. There's no way to know what's going to happen in the future until it happens!

 So, once you weigh your pros and cons, and the judgements of your head, heart and gut (instinct), go forward with the assurance that you have made the best possible decision you could, working with what was available to you.

And if you have doubts in the future, it is never to late to change paths! Also consider that sometimes there is a reason life pushes us one way rather than another that may not be apparent until MUCH later.

Good luck!

Your feelings are not uncommon among those of 'us' .   I think one reason we procrastinate is because of the difficulty in transitioning to a new activity - it's very hard to finish one activity and start a new one.  We second guess our decisions to the point that we can't make decisions . . . so CONGRATULATIONS . . .you made a big decision AND finished a paper.   Now it's time to relearn how to take a moment to enjoy your success!   Remember that success when you get ready to face the next project or decision. 

Jo

Self-improvement is the name of the game, and your primary objective is to strengthen yourself, not to destroy an opponent. Maxwell Maltz

Thanks for "sharing". Congratulations on the paper and all your efforts. Change is in the air- All you have to do is "Keep showing up" . My friend told me something that helped me, "If you stare at the grass while it is growing, it seems like nothing is happening" so stop staring at the grass and do something else. All is well.

Done:
Cleaned and cleared and watched stuff on the web
Workers came and I did not see them but the hot water in back on
Evening proyers and reflection

Todo:
Write a little in journal
Bed and sleep

Night Everyone

Rexroth

Thank you, but wasn't me who started the thread today.
It was Lennon who graciously started today's thread.
Best wishes on all your endeavors.

(update:  I see you reposted further up the page with the edit).