Procrastinators Anonymous is a fellowship of men and women who share their experience, strength and hope with each other that they may solve their common problem and help others to recover from chronic procrastination.

Sunday, February 10, 2008



pro's CI - 10:15pm

I washed a weekend's worth of dishes, then made dinner and washed some more dishes. I just finished brushing my teeth. I want to get to bed early because I have to be someplace early tomorrow morning. But I stayed up all night lastnight (oops) so my hours are messed up. I hope I can sleep.

Procrastination is the grave in which opportunity is buried.

non addictive effective sleep aid

Get some Melatonin, it works great for jetlag issues. It costs about $3 a bottle and you take one a half an hour before you want to go to sleep. It replicates the natural chemicals that your body produces when it sleeps, primarily in response to darkness. Hope it helps!

getting to sleep

That's interesting. I know about melatonin, but I didn't know they bottled it!

I don't usually have any sleeping problems, and in fact I was able to get to sleep fine last night. I was up all night the night before, but I only slept a few hours so I was tired.

Procrastination is the grave in which opportunity is buried.


I had never heard of it until last summer: I have twice since flown internationally and I swear by it. I even allow my children to use it if they get off schedule: Alex at 17 can be pretty irresponsible about sleep and if he pulls an all nighter he can get himself back quickly on track with it.

New here -- here goes!

(See my introduction)

I've decided to write out the one thing I've procrastinated on doing all week--choosing to zone out on tv rather than face it:

continuing to research and write about my homeschool curriculum unit study on Gandhi.

I am going to go out to my office and work on it for 1 hour!  There I said it!

Thanks for being here.

Been there, done that


As a former homeschooler myself, I know how hard it is to do so much preparing of lessons. We saw it though with 4 children and thanks to my wife, it worked. Hang in there. There is life after homeschooling!!! I promise!


Hi Karen

I'm in Atlanta and we're about the same age . . .welcome! 




“There’s never enough time to do all the nothing you want.” - Bill Watterson, Calvin and Hobbes

pro's CI - 6:15pm

That's all the book editing I'm going to do today. I have to work on my pile.

I didn't go out today because the weather was lousy, and now I'm restless. I still could go out but it's still cold and unpleasant out there. Maybe I'll exercise in my apartment.

Procrastination is the grave in which opportunity is buried.

indoor exercise

So I decide I'm going to exercise then look around and realize I don't have enough space in my apartment to do it. This is a ridulous place to live. I guess I can do a little, but I barely have room to walk around in here. Oh well.

I have a step I can use - maybe I'll try that.

Procrastination is the grave in which opportunity is buried.

small apartment syndrome

I have that problem (or at least the I don't wanna go out and excercise problem) so I put on some funky music and dance.


I get tired of my spouse not even trying to understand the nature of my procrastination. This sunday, all I can do is long for the escape that sleep provides. I'm just so frustrated with always defending myself.


spousal disillusionment

My marriage is at an impasse because of my procrastination. If I don't finish my practicum for my masters (now two years overdue) I think it will end. There is nothing that I can say to him anymore accept to follow the 12 steps and take responsibility for my actions without excuse and take it one day at a time. Also, has anyone else noticed that once you are finally getting your act together that your spouse will react angrily?

Of course!

Having spent many years in a 12 step program for families and friends of . . . , reacting angrily to someone getting in recovery is pretty average!  As much as spouses complain about whatever the dis-ease is, they have more control during the active dis-ease than they have when the person gets in recovery!!!!  And it's all about control, isn't it?



I find it incredibly maddening: just when I feel like there should be less to complain about there is more! It robs me of my sense of accomplishment!

For Douglas

Hi Douglas,

I'm sorry you're in such a frustrating situation with your spouse!  Some people are at their most comfortable when they are tackling some task, and that makes it hard for them to understand avoidant behavior like procrastination.  Perhaps your spouse is a natural "doer"?

I don't know if it would be helpful, but perhaps you could consider showing your spouse some of the articles on this site, especially the ones that most "click" for you?  If nothing else, it might help your spouse understand that there are real, understandable explanations for procrastination.

Just a thought. . . feel free to ignore if it doesn't feel right!


Thanks Falcon,Elizaveth, Karen and Falcon

Thank you all so much for your support. I can be a real bear when I feel I have to defend myself. Defending is never a strong position to have to stand in for a long time, because it always seems to the spouse that you are making excuses. If I could find my way out of this hole I have dug for myself, I would. I'm working on it. I feel the same way Elizaveth. I don't want to escape this marriage, but I sure could use a little support every once in a while.

Thanks to all of you for being there.



Sometimes I find that the best thing I can do is actively listen: simply say yes when she is speaking, so she knows you hear her. Half of the time my husband doesn't know what more to say if he feels heard.

WE understand!


“There’s never enough time to do all the nothing you want.” - Bill Watterson, Calvin and Hobbes

pro's CI - 4:45pm

I read my friend's book for a while, then watched a Netflix movie, and now I guess I'll read a bit more. It's time consuming and I have other things to do so I'm a bit conflicted.

Procrastination is the grave in which opportunity is buried.

elisaveth's sunday

 The day was limited to going to a memorial service today. It was an early morning and a very emotional one: we got back by 2 and then collapsed. I enjoyed the evening because the entire family cooked (my son makes rockin' mashed potatos) and then we all watched Rain Man. All in all it was a good Sunday, but I feel a bit headachy and feverish, so want to go to bed now.

For tonight:
brush teeth
set out clothing
clean up corner of the room
skin routine X
big book
plan for tomorrow

tonight I am grateful
to live in a culture where people feel free to express their emotions.
for my fireplace
for other people's willingness to pitch in
for my pharmacist's knowledge
for my son who massaged my neck and shoulders
for the willingness to do baby steps
for Douglas, who so eloquently has put into words today what I have been unable to express about the damage we do to ourselves with our words

kromer Sun CI

I'm on the west coast for yet another interview trip, lots and lots to get done today before the hard interview-ness starts.

To do:
*Protein structure Pset (email into TA) (Finish question 1 and start 2 and 3 today)
*Email in Spanish assignment (DONE)
*Write and email UROP proposal (DONE)
*Arrange for coffee with friend (TRIED, SEE DIDN'T RESPOND)
*Arrange secret valentines (DONE)
*Email about cooking, deal with other email (DONE)
*Redo motif scanning (DONE)
*Run with THEME graph and look at results (STARTED)
*Visualize canonical pathway
*Hike and dinner with family friend (DONE)
*Read up on people I'm interviewing with (DONE)
*Come up with 10 intelligent questions to ask interviewer (DONE)
*Fix WM (Emailed sysadmin for advice)
*Analyze expt. results (STARTED)

Argh, long list! It all seems pretty urgent to me, but I'll just try to
get through as much as I can. None of these absolutely have to get done today, they just need to get done in the next few days.
I'll start by working on the problem set.

Falcon CI Sun.

I'm still fighting a lot of fatigue.  I think it's partly a side effect of the lexapro I'm taking, so I'm looking forward to tapering off of that starting in a few weeks.

Before I head out later I need to:

  • Look up wake-up routine & print
  • Put clothes in laundry
  • Take a nap
  • Hang clothes & put gis in laundry
  • Take a walk
  • Dry/hang the gis
  • Put out clothes for tomorrow

Really looking forward to the nap part. . .


Falcon - wintered in

Hi all,

It's cold here, too -- and snowy and likely to get slippery.  I cancelled my evening plans and, like Pro, have been doing a little indoor exercise (boogying down to music in my living room.)

There's not much that I have to do this evening, but I'd like to spend the time doing things that are fun or meaningful, rather than drifting all over the internet or something all night.  So, not an official to-do list, but here are some things I COULD do:

Call M.
Write to S.
Watch 12th Night video
Tidy kitchen
Glance through The Pile
Think about friends I'd like to get in touch with & plan when/how to get in touch
Update calendar


pro's CI - 12:15pm

Nice thread starter. Thanks, Journey! :)

I'm reading a book for a writer friend, and I want to finish that today so I can get the comments back to her. That's my top priority for today.

Procrastination is the grave in which opportunity is buried.

Lark at 9:31am

Hi everytone. Thare's an arctic freeze moving through here today. Perhaps the upside will be that some inside work will be done here. In the meantime errands etc will be done before it gets too bad. You're inspiring me with your housework today Journey!
To do:
 morning routine
 feed neighbor's dog
 get food, pet food, ?, while I'm out
 fill extra trash bag (just want to get rid of some extra stuff)
 make room for filing cabinet in cellar
 check in here

Lark @ 5:00pm

My electricity has been off all afternoon. I've been using a small kerosene heater, but it dropped into the high 50s in my living room. Brr. It's back on for now, and I really hope it warms up in here. I spent the afternoon under a blanket, and got little else done. Tonight I may do laundry and go to a 12 Step meeting. They always have hot coffee there!

weather not too good here, either

In New York it's not too terribly cold (34°F), but it's blowing hard here and snowing. What city are you in?

Procrastination is the grave in which opportunity is buried.

Sending Pro Winter

You'll be getting it this evening or night, Pro. It's going to be near zero by morning here. Put on some warm clothing for tomorrow. For a general point of reference, I'm near Pittsburgh, a bit west and in the "boonies".

temperature is dropping

You're right - it's getting colder here. It's 27 degrees now, and it's supposed to go down to 16 tonight. It's also very windy - I can hear it blowing. That's the worst thing about New York in winter. It's right on the water and the wind can be brutal. I hope the furnace doesn't break down tonight. It loves breaking down on the coldest nights.

My body is screaming MOVE and my brain is saying NOT OUT THERE. So I think I'll now exercise in my apartment.

Procrastination is the grave in which opportunity is buried.


lol Lark I have to do it, I'm having company in an hour! 


“There’s never enough time to do all the nothing you want.” - Bill Watterson, Calvin and Hobbes

Journey 9 am

It's Party Time!

The house is mostly ready - here's what I need to do this morning:




9:00-9:30 - one more dishwasher load and fruit bowl
9:30-10:30 - make cucumber sandwiches
10:30-11:30 - take a shower and get myself ready
11:30-12:30 - set the table and put out the food
12:30-1:00 - relax!

See youse guys after the party.








“There’s never enough time to do all the nothing you want.” - Bill Watterson, Calvin and Hobbes

Journey 11:30

I'm as ready as I'm going to get.  The dirty laundry is hidden under a blanket in the closet, all the various piles of junk are piled on a corner of my desk, and the rest of the house is pretty clean.  My aunt will snoop though so she will find my dirty laundry and look behind the toilets to see if I cleaned there (I didn't).  :evil::

Anyway, the hard part is done, now it's time for a bubble bath and then fun!










“There’s never enough time to do all the nothing you want.” - Bill Watterson, Calvin and Hobbes

aunt snooping

Silly, isn't it! All our anxiety over having people over is because they do things like that! I keep telling myself I would rather see people than have a clean house!