Monday 13th January 2014

Maint. basics, exer, plan, follow through, use tools that work     good starter jal-

good article:

http://well.blogs.nytimes.com/2011/02/28/go-easy-on-yourself-a-new-wave-... to leaarn self compassion

“Self-compassion is really conducive to motivation,” Dr. Neff said. With self-compassion, if you care about
yourself, you do what’s healthy for you rather than what’s harmful to
you.”

A positive response to the statement “I’m disapproving and judgmental
about my own flaws and inadequacies,” for example, suggests lack of
self-compassion. “When I feel inadequate in some way, I try to remind
myself that feelings of inadequacy are shared by most people” suggests
the opposite.

“compassion breaks,” 
involve repeating mantras like “I’m going to be kind to myself in this
moment.”

If this all sounds a bit too warm and fuzzy, like the Al Franken character Stuart Smalley (“I’m good enough, I’m smart enough, and doggone it, people like me”), there is science to back it up. A 2007 study by researchers at Wake Forest University

“The problem is that it’s hard to unlearn habits of a lifetime,” . “People have to actively and consciously develop the habit of
self-compassion.”sys Dr. Neff,  “Self-Compassion: Stop Beating Yourself Up and
Leave Insecurity Behind”

people say motivation won't last. neither does bathing, that's why we recommend it daily

zig ziglar

wash up

tidy kitchen

hallway shelf and sweep

clear kitchen table

hang washing

wash sheets

receipts-returns

clear desk

sort r paperwork file

doc apt

tidy bedroom

food shopping

texts/phonecalls

tidy living room

fnances-phonecalls

pay rent