Wanting vs Needing
I find myself successful at doing chores and tasks by adopting the attitude of "wanting" to do it instead of "needing" to. Because when I feel I "need" to fulfill a a task, I end up frozen with fear, worried, and anxious. To need doesn't supply a powerful boost of motivation unlike wanting. This year, I'm more consistent with exercising because I want to. Of course when I get up early morning, I'm feeling cranky because in the back of my mind I'm dreading starting the exercise. But I take time to change the mind set and sure enough I get things done with pride. Maybe I could apply this towards college. What do y'all think?
- By Taka at 17 Jan 2007 - 10:43am
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want to versus need to
This is a huge issue with procrastinators. Neil Fiore mentions it in his book, as Monica said. It's also a primary issue with "demand resistance", which is discussed in the book "Too Perfect". You'll find a thread about the book in the book area, and there's an article about Demand Resistance in the Articles area.
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Procrastination is the grave in which opportunity is buried.
Not Me
Sorry Pro, I didn't say it. Maybe it was Mollie
If I can't do it perfectly, I'll do it anyway. If I can't do it all, I'll do some. If I do nothing, nothing gets done.
"I don't feel like it" is a poor sacrifice for your dreams.
oops
I wasn't sure who said it when I was writing the message, and was too lazy to look. I knew it was a name that started with "M".
Yes, it was Mollie. Her message is below this one.
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Procrastination is the grave in which opportunity is buried.
I think you've realized
I think you've realized something really powerful. In The Now Habit, Neil Fiore talks about replacing "I have to" language with "I want to." I've found this reframing to be very helpful sometimes.