Step 1 questions from a "sibling" fellowship (WA)
In the interest of getting myself moving again on a First Step regarding my procrastination/perfectionism dis-ease, and I hope also providing a service to some here, here's list of questions from the big book of Workaholics Anonymous:
1. How has work stress and excess work and/or work avoidance affected my health?
2. What is the history of my workaholism, starting with my family history of addictive work or other addictions? What has my family of origin taught me about work? Including my first memories of work or activity, what is the progression of work addiction in my life?
3. What have I tried in the past to control my problems with work: changing jobs, taking time off, reading self-help books, etc.?
4. Free-write about what I am powerless over, and my feelings about powerlessness.
5. How would I quantify my workaholism? (WA book suggests using an example it provides as a model; I can't type out the whole thing here but the idea is to make an estimate regarding things like "number of times I worked all night," "amount of lost wages due to probation or lack of promotion," "number of times I have given excuses (lies) for being late," "number of hours spent watching TV to escape," "number of times my tax returns have been way overdue," etc. Hoo boy, such fun stuff to take a hard look at!)
6. How have my relationships or lack of them been affected by my work problems?
7. What seems unmanageable in my life? How has this addiction diminished my life?
8. How would I describe my relationship to money and power?
9. How would I describe the criticism that I direct at myself — my negative thinking and poor self esteem? How do these drive my decisions?
10. How do procrastination and perfectionism and love of power affect my life? How have I been deceptive and tried to cover for how out of control life feels?