How to find a therapist / psychologist who understands procrastination
Hi all - new here, probably should have joined years ago but ... well, you know the punchline.
I've been reading Burka & Yuen, "Procrastination - Why you do it and what to do about it". Much of it rings true, and I see some hope for the first time in a long time, but I'd like to find a therapist to go through some of my issues with. Unfortunately, "procrastination" is not one of the areas of focus that's listed on anyone's bio. Any thoughts or recommendations on how to find someone? (I'm in NJ).I
I'm not so much looking for a coach to give me strategies, I feel like I really need to explore the roots of this, and for that a trained psychologist is best.
Thanks!
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(drsoco)
I can understand how you feel. We do not make "recomendations" on outside issues, it is not part of our 12 step group traditions, we recently had a discussion on that.
I did look on line searching for what you asked, have you tried something like that?
Good luck. V
finding a therapist
While I have only worked with Cognative Behavorial Therapists (with some small successes) I wonder if you might look for therapists who specialize in addictions? PA's premise is that procrastination is an addiction....sooo...maybe it can be 'explored' in the same way.
For me I have several 'reasons' why I procrastinate on various tasks. Knowing which one is in play at the time helps me decide on which techniques to employ to get past them.
Another thought...I always supposed that upon going throuh therapy I would have a magical 'aha' moment and would suddenly break through whatever barrier was holding me back and then getting over my destructive behavior would suddenly be easier. While I have had a couple of those 'aha!' moments that shined light on the motivations behind my actions the hard work of overcoming procrastination was not any easier. Once I adjusted my expectations I was finally able to focus on techniques rather than waiting for that feeling of 'breaking through'. I still have a very long way to go and am coming to realize that it will be a life long struggle, but that I will learn to deal with it better over time
I wish you the very best in your search and your striving. welcome.
((crazybug))
your "another thought" is dangerously RIGHT ON with me ...well said
Thanks MD
Let's just keep coming back and maybe it will get easier with time. I just need to remember not to wait for that to happen. I have a glorious vision that one day I'll step back and say - Wow! look how far I've progressed and I didn't even realize it. PA gives me that hope.
((wild insect:-))
Crazybug:
I am trying (not always succesfully) to ignore visions of glory (illusory/distractions). Perhaps just find the GLORY in the GUTS, to paraphrase an old saying.
Welcome DrSoco!
It can be quite enlightening to try to figure out what "caused" our procrastination, but I've found that it is more beneficial to jump right in and start working on improving our behavior. Good luck!
Jo
'You become what you think about most of the time.' - Brian Tracy
Welcome DrSoco!
oops duplicate post . .. so here's a second welcome lol
Jo
'You become what you think about most of the time.' - Brian Tracy
Thanks for the multiple
Thanks for the multiple welcomes! :)
I understand your point, but I fear that I'm really, really good at avoiding and without being able to get to the root of the cause, strategies and organization tips won't much help.
In the absence of another option I'd look into a coach but I wouldn't be quite as optimistic.