When Vic posted the 4shared.com site the other day, i checked it out and found a lot of self help stuff out there. I'm not sure this site is entirely legal, but anyway I did download a few things. One thing I found was a lecture from Tony Robbins about redefining success and failure and it really resonated with me so I thought I'd share it with you guys.
Here's a summary of what he said:
Think about your idea of success, and your idea of failure. Is your idea of success achievable? Will you feel like a failure if you don't attain some impossibly high standard, like being a millionaire by age xx?
Now redefine your idea of success and failure, i.e, failure = giving up completely and success = daily thinking about what you want to accomplish and making a good effort at accomplishing those things.
For myself, I realized that I think of success as being a recognized expert in my field and anything else is failure. That's silly! So I redefined failure as screwing things up so badly that I lose my home and my family, and success as giving my best effort to do a good job at work and at home.
This simple idea lifted a load off my shoulders - and I hope it helps you too although I'm sure Tony Robbins said it much better than I could.