Procrastinators Anonymous is a fellowship of men and women who share their experience, strength and hope with each other that they may solve their common problem and help others to recover from chronic procrastination.

Hi all

Hi, great thing i found this forum. I am resolved to improve my learning strategies (preparing exams at college, etc) and one site I went to recommended seeking the support of others. So I will set this goal and check in daily - am curious to see if this will really get things to change :-)

I realized that there's still that notion of no pain, no gain. Meaning, in my case, if i don't "study hard" it's probably not serious enough and I am likely to fail. And well, if I'll fail anyway as I just can't get myself to work during hours and hours, what?s the use of doing it at all. Some twisted logic...

I came across some great tools, one of which is called super memo, and it really worked quite well while i was using it. Then I changed schools, took a long break in between, and am back here now at case one (that is, med school).

So, I'm looking forward to use this forum and modify this habit! have a great day everyone and I'm looking forward to get to know you :-)

cheers

sophie

i just joined today and i

i just joined today and i too an curious if this will help me.  man i sure need help lol.   anyways good luck to u and everyone.

Welcome Sophie

(You are right Clement) 

Welcome Sophie!

This is a great place, I am a newbie myself but I have already greatly benefited. This a source of great compassioned advice.

Looking forward knowing you too!

 

 

 

Welcome Sophie

Sharing is the first step.

I found what works for me may not work for someone else and vice versa. Also what worked before may not work now because "life on life's terms" have changed. Here you become empowered, set free. By showing up every day you become aware of the present moment , the only one that matters, and you can leave the front line thoughts raging in the battlefield of your mind. You have allies here to fight the good fight. You are not alone.

Welcome sophie

I hope you find recovery here. You mentioned that your super memo thing worked while you were using it. I know exactly what's that like! So many things i have tried worked while i used them. And then they all fell away.

So now my goal is consistency with this forum. It's been difficult at times, wanted to give up, and it can just fall out of my mind as something to do.

I hope you have success using this forum too. Glad to have you. If you havent found them on their own, the most popular tools here are the Daily Check-ins at http://procrastinators-anonymous.org/forum/6 (you can see today's on the right sidebar), and chat at http://procrastinators-anonymous.org/chatbox

Use the tools however they work for you. Check-in is the more permanent, concrete to do list - accountability place to start your day and refer back to and keep yourself on goal.

The chat is an ongoing motivational tool to help you stick to your check in. It's also a place to "talk yourself thru things." And, while working, ppl can hear chat beeps going off. we call that "beeps of solidarity" because it's comforting to know that we're all in this together, that people are in chat working thru their issues just like your, even if you're not reading the actual posts.

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the touch of the master's hand: http://procrastinators-anonymous.org/node/1898#comment-27748

"fall down seven times, get up eight" - japanese proverb

Regarding using tools

Something that helped me stick with tools:

I dropped tools and resources several times, even though they worked great when I did use them. (echo?)

I discovered that what happened is that I saw the tools and resources as an emergency measure, things I needed to use because I was in trouble.

After a while, my siuation would improve, I would fall into complacency and stop using them.

Now, I use my tools with a new approach: They are not something I use because I am procrastinator or have problems. This implies I would use them less when things get better. Instead I see them as tools I use just like I use a bed to sleep more comfortable, or my car to move me around. Even if I am in a perect place one day, these tools will be part of my life.

 I think I might one day leave this forum, just because I feel I am here to get help.

But I know my task list at "remember the milk" will always exist in my life. My budgetting tool will always be there, my shopping list by stores will always be there.

When we try the same thing over and over expecting a different result that is insanity. So I encourage you to look for a new approach. Instead of beating myself up for not being consistent, I beat up my current believes and routines, looking for a solution I have not applied before.

 Hope it helps...

same here

i gave up my tools when i started to improve, many times, repeatedly in the past.

i too am looking at them now as a way of life.

but for me it might be a little different.

1) i'm an addict. i believe i am accepting myself as that. Ie when things are going well, even if for days, weeks, or years, i am always susceptible to getting sucked down that drain again. So the tools are ever a means of keeping my addiction in check.

2) last few days have been good. I have relied on these tools, but in an even deeper way, i've relied on god as the source of my motivation and strength to do the tools, even when i hate it. Again, when things go well, i start thinking i can do it myself, w/o god. Today i hope is the first of many days that things are going well, and i give credit to god for getting me here, and keep depending on him for continued success.

we'll see how that goes.

Brother Lawrence says when he screws up: "i will never be able to do otherwise if You leave me to myself." That's been a source of wisdom and strength for me continually over the last week.

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the touch of the master's hand: http://procrastinators-anonymous.org/node/1898#comment-27748

"fall down seven times, get up eight" - japanese proverb

Just challenging ideas - are you sure you want to say that?

I have been called an adict too. But I think that the label does not help me.

It traps me within walls, and limits my potential and my posibilities. Via creative visualization I have been able to perform miracles in my life. And via creative visualization I've learned and confirmed that my words are too powerful, I can create my own reality. So I must be picky about what I say to myself.

 I stopped calling myself an adict, I stop saying that I have a desease and started visualizing myself being able to figure it all out. I remind myself I have all the wisdom I need inside of me.

It just serves me better, I am responsible for my own healing and I don't want to be responsible for perpetuating the notion of adiction as part of who I am. Are you sure it helps you 'accepting' yourself as an addict? You might be creating yourself as an adict thought your own thoughts and words. It is possible.

Just my two cents, that has been my path, I understand it is not for everyone.

There is more that one correct way to do things.

Blessings!

addiction

well, i'm not sure we should monopolize sophie's intro page with this discussion. perhaps we should carry it on elsewhere?

this site is so amazing because people share their experiences and what works for them, and we can all see ourselves in others, some more some less, and thru it all so many people get fed and well here. I just love it--both the diversity and the commonality. yea!

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the touch of the master's hand: http://procrastinators-anonymous.org/node/1898#comment-27748

"fall down seven times, get up eight" - japanese proverb

HI Sophie-Welcome!

Hello,

I have found the tools and information on this site to be very helpful.  I have been seeing gradual changes in my routine, and my approach to non preferred tasks is improving.  I wish you the best!

Sincerely,

p.e.

Welcome!

Welcome!