Procrastinators Anonymous is a fellowship of men and women who share their experience, strength and hope with each other that they may solve their common problem and help others to recover from chronic procrastination.

How and why check-ins work...

Checking in (or "book-ending") means doing this:

  1. Post a message committing to do a specific task during a specified period of time.

  2. At the end of that period of time, post a message reporting on what you did.

This sounds simple-minded, but it's a surprisingly effective tool. It works for several reasons:

  1. It makes you accountable.

  2. It provides social support. People can cheer you on when you succeed, or encourage you try again when you don't. Plus it ameliorates the sense of loneliness and isolation that people can feel doing certain tasks, making them easier to do.

Random Thoughts of Sat Apr 14

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My first check-in

morning - 9:30 am to 1:00 am

Apply for Census Canada p/t job

f/u Instore Focus position

email city hall - re request for room

Jobs to apply for - P/t Christie Refugee Centre, We Care (f/t), Prostate Cancer

Use time and activity audit scheet 

Lunch 1 to 1:30. Then sign in again. 

 

Vic 8/1 wow

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Why support groups may help procrastinators

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check-ins are so...public

So the check-in idea sure seems like a good one. But i must confess i would feel uncomfortable "coming clean" to the world like that. Ie if it were to just these people who seem to be fellow strugglers, it would feel comfortable to me, even liberating, but knowing that anyone in the world could read it, makes me uncomfortable.

Of course, that's a bit hypocritical because i read these posts before i was a member (ie i was part of that public) and it helped me know what i was joining.

Any ideas?

check-ins are so...public

I had to laugh at your post...my feelings exactly! As soon as I learn what I can do next I will have to bite the bullet and liberate myself! lol So what if my future boss tracks me down! I want to take action and learn how to work with what I've got.

AA uses initials

I just remembered that  in AA it's traditional to only identify people by their intials.  Perhaps some people are already doing that; for example someone's user name here is 'e'.  I suppose we could do that here.  An invented username, however, might serve the same purpose.

W'ch y'all think?

Exactly - just do what you

Exactly - just do what you need to do in order to feel comfortable *enough* to actually do something.

There's no requirement to have your 'real name' as your username, and you'll see that most people don't. :)

for anonymity, be careful about the details

I'm careful about my anonymity here. I don't post any identifying details. I feel safe enough.

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Procrastination is the grave in which opportunity is buried.

It's kind of public, but it

It's kind of public, but it could/can be kind of anonymous.

Would you feel more comfortable if you removed any identifying details from your profile and the check in posts?

Posting anonymously, etc.

For the most part, a very miniscule part of humanity will hit on this site. The best thing is to use a screen name that's unrelated to who you are or what you do, etc. Our chatbox can only be viewed by members, so we have a little more leeway. With  posts, it's best not to mention specific names or places, because a Google search may (?) bring those up. Being a bit vague is probably the best thing to do. Some of us do communicate privately, so more specific info can be shared that way. On our profile page, we can accept or not accept e-mails. I think it may be "not accept" by default. If anyone needs to talk to a "person", that works fine. I'm always happy to hear from fellow members who need to vent, etc. Thanks

anonymous tasks for check-ins

Some people just list their tasks with a one-letter abbreviation:
Example:
Worked on Project A.
Phoned B.
Organized C.

If you think someone might recognize your post, use fake initials to label your task.  If you need to phone John or Jane, don't say "Phone J."  .... Instead, make up some unrelated initial that only you knows what it means.

thanks

then *I* wont remember which is which :)

Thanks for the advice.  I still feel uncomfortable, even tho i see the wisdom in what you're saying.  the people on this forum tend to be generous and helpful.

I would feel much more comfortable in the chatbox.

kindof

I know what it's like to figure things out from a few clues, so i assume that if a coworker or family member of mine happened upon this site, from the details in my post--especially check-in posts--they might be able to guess who i am.  Or at least narrow down that i must be one of a set of people they know.  And then they could ask those 10 unsuspecting people innocuous questions and narrow it down further.  Those are the ideas that go thru my head.

But...would they really?Or

But...
would they really?

Or is it more that that's a way for you to not have to do it, or think about it, or try changing, or solve your problems?

I do do that, and it's that sort of thinking that ironically, makes me want to change.
 The paranoia that other people will find out, the coming up with elaborate excuses to not change, or why this thing, technique, etc won't work, rather than actually trying it.
It's like, I wasn't so worried about the problem or behaviour itself, up until I realise that I'm *acting* like an alcoholic or someone with that kind of problem.
I try and snap myself out of it and go, hey, it's not that big a deal in the long run if I'm late and messy, and if it is, then I *do* need help, and people will understand that.
But that's just me.

Maybe remove your location and birthdate from your profile, if you want to give yourself a reason to go do it, and then just don't worry about?
I mean, without that, there's oh... several million people on the internet, of which you could be any?

Although I know those sorts of worries aren't entirely rational...

i see where you're going

i see where you're going with that and why.  As you point out it might be the sense of my own vulnerability rather than the actual realistic chance of someone recognizing me.  I mean, procrastination is not something i'm proud of, if ya know what i mean.

I really, really know.I

I really, really know.

I wasn't trying to deeply analyse you, or anything like that, if that makes sense, I wouldn't be so forward. I'm saying honestly that that is what *I* do, and questions I've been trying to ask myself.

But good luck. :)

Ummmm...I'm in New Zealand.

Ummmm...
I'm in New Zealand. Which means it's already 9.50am Thursday morning. (Everyone else is on the Wednesday thread).

I've never used the check in before (well, I only joined two days ago), so... any suggestions on how I should do it?
Should I just pretend it's yesterday, and post my comments to that thread?
o_O?

some check-in options

  • I belong to another international forum -- with daily threads -- where this question comes up.
  • You could start the Thursday thread now if you want to.  If people who are still living in Wednesday want to post their Wednesday tasks, they'd need to look for the Wednesday thread.
  • Or ... you could post on the Wednesday thread and "pretend it's yesterday", as you suggested.

Anybody can start the thread for the new day.
You just go here:
http://www.procrastinators-anonymous.org/forum/6
Then look at top where it says:
. Check-ins or "Book-ending"
. My forum discussions.
. Active forum discussions.
. Post new forum topic.

Click on "post new forum topic" and label subject the day/date.
Write something simple like hello "Welcome to Thursday".  Add a graphic if you feel like it.
That starts the thread.

Then reply to that new day's thread with a separate post with your own personal post for the day.

(Well, actually, it's explained much better below ... in pro's post "mechanics of checking in".)

Yup.  pro says "Every day someone (whoever gets to the forum first) starts a thread for the day".  That could be you, if you wish.

The most important thing is to not worry about being "perfect".   People frequently accidentally post on the "wrong" day's thread, and it really doesn't matter.

What matters is that you are reaching out and connecting with others.

--- movingalong

Thank you for your

Thank you for your reply!

"Yup.  pro says "Every day someone (whoever gets to the forum first) starts a thread for the day".  That could be you, if you wish."

I think I realised if I did that, and I'm the only one this far this side of the dateline, it'd always be me, and so avoided thinking about that option.
And of course I'm just being a twit, and admitting that makes me look like a twit, but duh, that's the sort of thinking that has me procrastinating all the time.

So hopefully I can embarrasedly admit that I am that sort of twit here, because well... I can't anywhere else.
I'm reading posts and going - that's me! That's me! (Or worse).
I put so much effort into only being perceived as the least-organised person people know me know, rather than oh, letting people know how bad it actually gets. And yet sometimes things are such a comedy of errors I want to relate them, then realise it won't sound quite as funny to others, it'll be just over the line into terrible.

Anyway, posting a new thread is not a huge responsibility, and I don't have to, it's just if I want to, but I'll still avoid doing it for the moment because I think I'll get caught up looking for a picture or something.

Cheers. ;)